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Re: butterfly
thank you for your comments. i wanted to stay with my husband to finish our marriage and have a companion in old age.....i asked 3 times for us to work it out and get some help if needed. he had already made up his mind, he was already with the other woman and no longer cared about me. things do happen for a reason and you are right we dont always see the why right away, but things do happen for the best has been my experience.
posted by
jeansaw
on February 28, 2015 at 6:09 PM
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I liked your comment on fear. "The only thing to fear is fear, itself"! I have gone through a similar situation but I chose to stay with him. I finally had gotten the courage to leave him when God changed my plans. You see I believe things happen for a reason and we don't always understand it at the time. But He helped me overcome my anger and all my other emotions while living with the one who had caused me such pain. Through it all, God showed me the way out of my anger and I realized that he was the weak one and not me. I began to work on changing my attitude and circumstances. When I gave all my pain to the Lord, He has shown me that we all have been given a purpose in life and after several years of depression, I accepted what pain & grief I had been through as a testing of my faith and I began to grow more in my faith; became more grateful of all the blessings God has given me and try to encourage and help others as much as I can. For even in "old" age He can use us to witness to others. He gave me many books to read to prepare me for my present life today. One was "Don't Waste your Sorrows" by Paul Billheimer. So glad you have found peace.
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Butterfly-1950
on February 28, 2015 at 5:29 AM
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Re:cct
well if she makes my husband happy then so be it. if she turns him out in a few months then i think i will sue her for alienation of affection and give him the money i make, i would never trust him again, but i care about what happens to him......my sister disagreed with my post, i read them to her. she said i was not the bully that the bullies are weak. i guess i do not have everything figured out yet and maybe i never will and that is ok too. never pull up what you have already established, trees are forever, people only till they find someone else.
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jeansaw
on February 27, 2015 at 10:12 AM
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Re: v1
growing old is so natural and there are benefits, it does not mean you will die tomorrow, young people die too. thanks for the return visit.
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jeansaw
on February 27, 2015 at 10:08 AM
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Re: jimmy
it does my heart good to be here on blogit and visit happy people, especially happily married people like you and kabu and wiley and others.
posted by
jeansaw
on February 27, 2015 at 10:06 AM
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I know how you feel. I've run the full gambit in my life. Circumstances forced me to live with my parents until I was 30. Then I lived with a guy friend for three years. Then it was a girlfriend for two. I then lived alone for six years until I met my wife. This June, we will have been married thirteen years! So, I've had a taste of it all! And I'd have to say, my current situation is the best . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on February 27, 2015 at 6:42 AM
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I'm a bit terrified of getting old, even though I feel quite young. Thankyou, for
visiting my post.
posted by
Vermont01
on February 27, 2015 at 5:25 AM
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Well I always think a woman who steals another woman's husband, well we won't go into that. Years ago people did not get the chance to split up very often. Quite a few viewed their partner with disdain and lived a kind of miserable existence, I suppose finance was the big problem. As one chap told me the old lady lives upstairs and I live downstairs and we rarely speak. I asked why did you marry her. He said well it was wartime and I thought I might be killed as I was a soldier, so I thought I might as well have a bit of pleasure before I was blown away. The thing is Jean you are a different person now, we all change, Look I am a psychiatrist, Oh! no I mean I know one, She once asked me to pull up a little tree that I had planted, as she said she would like it and would I go into partnership with her. 'Not likely. '
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C_C_T
on February 26, 2015 at 10:58 PM
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Re: kabu
we should have divorced at 25 years of marriage...... that is hind sight. its never to late till one is gone from this earth. one minute of peace is better than dieing without.
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jeansaw
on February 26, 2015 at 2:01 PM
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Re: naut
it has come home to me that nothing is as bad as it seems. the only thing to fear is fear itself. and yes, i am gaining a sense of freedom, freedom to finally be me.
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jeansaw
on February 26, 2015 at 1:59 PM
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yes some house keeping is always there. Paying bills and the washing and cleasning. Yard work and ensuring that there is enough money. But without the constant criticism and blame from someone else because he is not happy, you must be more relaxed. Your marriage sounds like my first was in some ways. That marriage died of exhaustion I always say and I never hated him.but reading here I am glad that i left after 17 years.
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Kabu
on February 26, 2015 at 12:22 PM
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Jean
After reading this, I can really understand your newly-won sense of freedom! Clesrly, you're doing well, in spite of some difficulties...
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Nautikos
on February 26, 2015 at 11:15 AM
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