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- Go to Freudian slip or is it just panties in a bunch?
That is really the only way to know if she's doing in on purpose, or just unaware that she's throwing her weight around. If she begins to Hum and Haw, throw the book at her!
posted by
adnohr
on February 3, 2015 at 8:52 PM
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PatB
She's a rattlesnake and good you danced out of her way any way you could.
posted by
WileyJohn
on February 3, 2015 at 6:31 PM
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Well, as insistent as she may have been, it appears she was really in a bind, and was probably just hoping to change that 'no' to a 'yes.' Of course you have a perfect right to refuse. And whatever you do, 'unbunch' those panties quick! It'll be much easier to walk around that way . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on February 3, 2015 at 1:19 PM
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Very interesting post and comments. Just curious, I wonder what her side of the story might be.
posted by
TAPS.
on February 3, 2015 at 1:00 PM
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Actually to me, the false charm and pleading AND then scheduling dates on days and times that are all wrong for you, to me THAT is passive aggression and is a most evil form of bullying. I have no time for this sort of behaviour. I am no Pat ....I am a runner. Upset me like that and I am gone. Choosing what makes me happiest and sticking to that. Never did believe in knocking my head against a brick wall...life is too short.
posted by
Kabu
on February 3, 2015 at 12:43 PM
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H'm looks like someone is trying to bend a rod of iron with soft words. Perhaps it can work, but not if one is giving all the time. She needs you more than you need her. Not only that it is silly to drive on bad roads unless absolutely necessary.
posted by
C_C_T
on February 3, 2015 at 11:01 AM
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Pat_B
Well, as usual, I think too many things! My main thought is, yes, your forgetting may well have been that....but passive-aggressiveness is the tool most women use, as subconsciously as not most of the time, because we are usually taught not to use out and out aggression of any other kind to our detriment....so the passive kind becomes second nature to us whether we recognize it or not.
Charm and persuasion are long honored forms of trying to get someone to see your way....and, no, they are in no way connected with bullying and, in fact, should be encouraged. The world could use a lot more charm and persuasion these days versus the crass exchanges we see displayed everywhere that pass for discourse between people who disagree. That said, there's certainly nothing wrong with using your big girl panties to tell her you've told her nicely and you're tired of repeating yourself....no means no.
And, if Naut's right and she has another agenda with her scheduling...which if a review of her and all of the facts indicates, I say forget passiveness and have a straight on discussion about that....time's too short for all of us.
posted by
Krisles
on February 3, 2015 at 9:20 AM
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Coincidence, or power-play?
Sounds like she has made some decisions alone that should have been discussed with others who will be affected by the changes.
posted by
Ciel
on February 3, 2015 at 6:49 AM
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Pat
Sometimes the results of self-anaysis are correct, and sometimes not, LOL...But there's something else that occurred to me: Could Peggy have scheduled things so that they would interfere with your volunteer activities? Or am I being too suspicious here, LOL...
posted by
Nautikos
on February 3, 2015 at 5:02 AM
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