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Good to know . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on July 20, 2014 at 9:40 AM
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we do so often agree.
posted by
Kabu
on July 18, 2014 at 6:27 PM
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Very true indeed, shamasehar! At least with the written word, you have time to erase or correct something that may not sound right, or may be improperly received. When you say something, you can't grab those words out of mid-air and reign them in before they reach someone's ears! Those gift recipients should have taken a minute to review that thank you note and reconsider using those words! But it's too late now! And, you know what 'they' say when it's too late . . .
posted by
JimmyA
on July 18, 2014 at 6:13 AM
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I wish, Sir Wiley, that some of my friends and relatives were that mean to me! A couple of hundred dollars would have been more than adequate for a wedding gift. But a thousand? That was unbelievably generous of these people! I hope their egos handled all that punishment . . .
posted by
JimmyA
on July 18, 2014 at 6:08 AM
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Re: I think Abby missed a real opportunity
Unfortunately, Rumor, most of her response usually are wishy-washy! I don't really know her 'history,' so I don't really know what her background and/or expertise is actually in. But you're right . . . she could have come up with a better response than "be grateful you even got a thank you note." However, whatever 'life-lesson' she might have come up with probably would have fallen on deaf ears anyway . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on July 18, 2014 at 6:06 AM
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Like they(we all know them now 😜)say 'the tongue does not have teeth but can bite'similarly words can bite too so use them carefully.
posted by
shamasehar
on July 17, 2014 at 10:18 PM
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JimmyA
The gift actually was in favour of the egos of the givers.The receivers were hurt at the meaness of the gift which required so little effort other than to open a wallet or whatever.
posted by
WileyJohn
on July 17, 2014 at 6:37 PM
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I think Abby missed a real opportunity
to speak up on this one...her wishy-washy response is like a lead balloon.
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posted by
Rumor
on July 17, 2014 at 3:43 PM
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Not to be pessimistic or overly negative, chuck, but I'd have to agree. I can't really put my finger on the actual cause, but it appears that good manners, civility and respect are all on life-support . . .
posted by
JimmyA
on July 17, 2014 at 6:26 AM
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I suppose, Kabu, that's one way to look at it. And I can only assume that if you were the parent of either one of them, you probably would be somewhat embarrassed if those distant friends eventually let you in on that Thank You note! Like I wrote Naut, they obviously just didn't think before they penned that response! And it was especially callous after the gift was as generous as it was! Spoiled brats indeed . . . 
posted by
JimmyA
on July 17, 2014 at 6:24 AM
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Believe it or not, FSI, I very rarely read those advice columns, unless, after a quick glance, something in the 'heading' catches my eye, and I feel compelled to take a closer look. Like I wrote, this was one that caught my wife's eye. Normally I think I would have passed this one up. But the handful of ones I have read over the years did seem to conclude with either some rather poor advice, or at least something that seemed almost irrelevant to the writer's actual angst. Abby must have one of the easiest jobs on the planet . . .
posted by
JimmyA
on July 17, 2014 at 6:19 AM
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I'm sure they did, C C T. And yes, I would be peeved too if I had sent someone $1,000 ( a very generous wedding gift, if you ask me ), and then they went on callously about how they spent it, and then asked for more! Some people . . .
posted by
JimmyA
on July 17, 2014 at 6:14 AM
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I believe they were too, Naut. And it was a poor choice of words indeed. No, I don't think their intention was to offend, but just like with certain people who don't think before they speak, sometimes people just don't think before they write either! I'm sure you're well-aware of that . . .
posted by
JimmyA
on July 17, 2014 at 6:11 AM
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Re: JimmyA
If only it were that easy, Bill! Then there were be no differentiation between donations and gifts . . .
posted by
JimmyA
on July 17, 2014 at 6:08 AM
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The world is changing so rapidly but not in the good direction.
posted by
Chuck_E_Ibrahim
on July 16, 2014 at 7:45 PM
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They would be off my list of anything from now on. Donation indeed and if you have any more to spare, and they enjoyed spending it and no word of what they spent it on. Tasteless.... spoilt brats.
posted by
Kabu
on July 16, 2014 at 5:32 PM
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I agree with you whole heartedly, Jimmy...Whenever I come across a Dear Abby column or Ask Amy, I find myself thinking, Where in the world did they come up with that advice?
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on July 16, 2014 at 12:08 PM
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Bad form Jimmy. The (enjoyed spending it) would have peeved me. It probably had to be earned the hard way.
posted by
C_C_T
on July 16, 2014 at 11:18 AM
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Jimmy
Donation is of course just the latinized word for gift - (from the Latin donatio - gift), and this was probably meant to be humorous! But it was nonetheless a poor choice of words - these people should know the word 'donation' is commonly used for a particular kind of gift...And then there's that business of 'taking money off their hands if they have too much of it' - very bad...
Nonetheless, I don't think they intended to offend - they're just very bad 'comedians', as you suggest...
posted by
Nautikos
on July 16, 2014 at 9:34 AM
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JimmyA
Or marry a millionaire Jimmy.
posted by
BC-A
on July 16, 2014 at 6:39 AM
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