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what is great is that in spite of the break up they are doing it amicably and with their daughter's best interest at heart

posted by Annicita on May 31, 2014 at 3:14 PM | link to this | reply

posted by lovelyladymonk on May 30, 2014 at 2:31 PM | link to this | reply

Yeah, there's a couple of ways to view it, for a couple of reasons. My younger sister is in the middle of a divorce right now after a 30 year marriage! And as close as my sister and I are, there were certain negative aspects of the marriage that she had kept to herself. But now that I know how badly she had been actually suffering, we have to look at the divorce as a 'good' thing. If people weren't meant to be together, they weren't meant to be together. It's just a shame she wasted all those years. But, she's already seeing another gentleman, a very nice guy we all like, and she can move on. I think it'll work out the same for your son . . .

posted by JimmyA on May 30, 2014 at 5:47 AM | link to this | reply

I suppose one does not really know a person until one spends time with them. Once the attraction wears off it is difficult to feel 'this is it for life.' Once one had no option you just had to tag along somewhat feeling disgruntled.  

posted by C_C_T on May 29, 2014 at 11:46 PM | link to this | reply

jeansaw, the only thing worse than a divorc is a bad marriage.

I thought we would never divorce, but brother was i wrong about that and about everything.

posted by dsm_tchr on May 29, 2014 at 8:04 PM | link to this | reply

I remember when my parents split up, my maternal grandmother was never told. She went to the grave not knowing because my parents did well putting up the facade.

As for whether it is a good news or bad news, I feel that as long as the divorce is amicable, good news scenarios will result.

posted by FormerStudentIntern on May 29, 2014 at 6:01 PM | link to this | reply

My first husband and I had a pretty adult divorce. We both realized we had married the wrong person for us and that the marriage had died from exhaustion. It has meant that both were at the children's weddings and all other important events.

posted by Kabu on May 29, 2014 at 5:42 PM | link to this | reply

If only their goals are different, they could work that out. They made a covenant with God I am assuming. I was divorced and I do believe all children are harmed by it no matter what their age is. I love your attitude to be with both of them.

posted by Justi on May 29, 2014 at 2:26 PM | link to this | reply

How about a little bit of both.  Good post.  It is hard on all involved when families break up.

posted by TAPS. on May 29, 2014 at 2:19 PM | link to this | reply

JS

All things considered, knowing well how devastating the consequences of a divorce can be for the kids (my parents divorced when I was 14, and it wasn't pleasant at all), I opt for calling it 'good news'...

posted by Nautikos on May 29, 2014 at 1:38 PM | link to this | reply