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Re: KABU
I am lucky to have distance between us...I told them I will never see them again so they don't need to think of me ever again...It will always hurt for one is my son...but one has to protect themselves ...
posted by
Kabu
on August 28, 2013 at 2:46 PM
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CCT
It is strange. My husband wanted to live here to get away from the strange community where he lived. He did not want to go to a city where neither of us had family or friends. It has been good and bad with more good. At least these two are no longer a problem! Thanks for your kind words. 
Speak frankly any time. 
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 28, 2013 at 9:06 AM
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JimmyA
The step and in-laws make me think of Cinderella. They seem resentful and vindictive. Intact families which are few once handled the few out of control ones. Now it is well out of control. Yes, it is better to stay out of their way.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 28, 2013 at 8:59 AM
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Annicita
The leader is of no help. aa sought his help on something before. He is a people pleaser who says in church what people asked and makes jokes. I only go there when to mood strikes and now because a family needs my assistance. Thanks for the advice.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 28, 2013 at 8:51 AM
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KABU
Ignoring them did not work three times. Therefore I had to take action to stop them. Thanks for the advice and I understand.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 28, 2013 at 8:48 AM
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FormerStudent Intern
You are fortunate indeed. This only happens when women behave like men and men behave Wilkerson women. Their thinking does not allow them to function right for the whole.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 28, 2013 at 8:47 AM
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BC-A
This was unusual to say the least. However, it is good now. I can walk freely without being annoyed and bothered. Thanks to a very insightful attorney. Thanks for unique way of prompting thoughts.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 28, 2013 at 8:44 AM
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NAUT
It is the principle that operates. I know people who get locked up standing on principles or dead right. I decided to use written steps to document. This is a way to deal will bullies like them. They are cowards who tried the good cop bad cop routine. It did not work on me. Thanks for the advice and I know exactly from where you view. 
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 28, 2013 at 8:42 AM
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lionreign:
They have serious issues of the mental nature. The attorney has them understanding that ignorance of the law is no excuse! Thanks for understanding.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 28, 2013 at 8:38 AM
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UtahJay
You are so right. They moved in my neighborhood and territory. They joined the church that my family attended and were founders. I watched a movie OPEN RANGE. The lead characters said no the type people who assumed they could and would boss others around. Thanks for the kind words.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 28, 2013 at 8:36 AM
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Mia890
I have not because the woman is hot head who rages and the man is passive aggressive. Plus, they like to get people alone to handle them or in a place with an audience. My attorney handled them. Thanks for the good advice.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 28, 2013 at 8:32 AM
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Reacting in anger only brings you down to their nasty level - I agree that changing churches seems the easiest method of avoidance, although it does seem a bit unfair that you have to leave when they're the ones being aggravating.
Have you tried telling them (calmly) that you have no desire to speak with them, and asking them to please leave you alone? Sometimes being a bit blunt is necessary to get the point across...? 
posted by
Mia890
on August 28, 2013 at 8:20 AM
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The Lord said that for me to be forgiven, that I must forgive, so no, I don't have anyone like this in my life, and I pray that one day you will not have folks like this in your life. Life is too short to live with anger.
posted by
UtahJay
on August 27, 2013 at 8:18 AM
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Wow they sound like they have some issues. You'd think they'd take the hint and just leave you alone
posted by
lionreign
on August 27, 2013 at 3:35 AM
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DrJ
I would simply change churches! There's no formality involved, is there? (I wouldn't know, since I enter a church only to admire the art and architecture, LOL)...
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Nautikos
on August 26, 2013 at 8:25 PM
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Dr. JPT
YOutside the church’s the mission field. But is inside the church the battleground love
BC-A, Bill’s R®st
posted by
BC-A
on August 26, 2013 at 2:08 PM
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Fortunately, I do not have anyone like that in my life.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on August 26, 2013 at 12:08 PM
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Yes there is/was someone like this in my life BUT I would never give them the satisfaction of me slapping them so that they have something to add to their list against me. I ignore them.
posted by
Kabu
on August 26, 2013 at 11:25 AM
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I think I would either involve the leader of the church and say that you don't know how much longer you can attend due to harassment .... or .... change churches! Peace of mind is far more important than sticking with that situation!
posted by
Annicita
on August 26, 2013 at 8:28 AM
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Yeah, I have a step-cousin ( if there is such a thing! His mother married my uncle ) who I try to avoid at all costs during family gatherings. He's never done anything personal to me, but he is crude, obnoxious, loud, annoying and extremely unpleasant to be around! It sucks having to spend most of the party locating him so I know where not to be! It may be somewhat tougher in your case, but I think it may be time to make the effort to not go to the places where they might be. That's the only way you'll be sure to avoid them . . .
posted by
JimmyA
on August 26, 2013 at 7:22 AM
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Doc I cannot really understand it. Well I can, but it seems a strange community that you live in. I would not bother to go to the Church, but religion appears to be stronger in your country. Perhaps fifty years ago it was the same here, I don't know what has caused the disillusionment. Now evidently these people cannot understand your stance, I might feel as you do under the same circumstances, but I would just avoid them, you are made of stronger stuff. I won't speak frankly if it is not desired.
posted by
C_C_T
on August 26, 2013 at 12:30 AM
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