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WileyJohn
You were and are exactly right! Same goes for relatives with those negative relationships. 
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 18, 2013 at 5:26 AM
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KABU
You know exactly what I mean. That is so wonderful that you have such a good life with Wiley. 
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 18, 2013 at 5:24 AM
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UtahJay
That is acceptable for their is no doubt mutual advantage. These do not mean well. They want me to be their everything.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 18, 2013 at 5:21 AM
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NAUT
I agree and operate that way. It is just mind boggling the nerve of them to assume that I will change and take care of their business. 
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 18, 2013 at 5:18 AM
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JimmyA
I march to mine. As a parade goes, some like walk along the parade and distract attention until an officer stops them, or those coming in late to an event without awaiting a break, this what I deal with continuallly.
They cannot stop themselves. True definition of insanity. I keep working on them little by little. As the termite gets finished with a house, they will be done. 
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 18, 2013 at 5:16 AM
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FormerStudentIntern
I can deal with circumstance and situations for those are out of one's control. These controllers must constantly get put in check!
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 18, 2013 at 5:10 AM
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Dr JPT
Yup, I had one of those guys for years as a friend. I told he & she that everything has reason to live except except dead friendships.
posted by
WileyJohn
on August 17, 2013 at 7:29 PM
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Re: KABU
yes we do and each day we have together we thoroughly enjoy and thank God for...i was abused by my ex. and by my son and DIL before I came here. One day I said enough...and left. They all wanted my money and if that was all the importance that I was for them...I was out of there. Then came Wiley..the biggest gift God could give each other. I pray for you to find some peace too.
posted by
Kabu
on August 17, 2013 at 7:00 PM
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My wife does that, but she means well.
posted by
UtahJay
on August 17, 2013 at 2:52 PM
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DrJ
I often take others into account in my planning, but I will not have others plan my day for me. (I am excluding work-related constraints, of course...) 
posted by
Nautikos
on August 17, 2013 at 11:40 AM
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Nope! No one in my life operating under such a guise! I march to the beat of my own drum . . .
posted by
JimmyA
on August 17, 2013 at 10:24 AM
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Fortunately, I do not have anyone like that in my life...For me, it's more circumstances that plan my life...
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on August 17, 2013 at 9:43 AM
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LostInLife
You are so right. 
They tell me exactly what you said but do not do that, then want me to comply to their requests. Little by little it is changing. I have to continue to show them that they are in control of themselves and responsible for themselves.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 17, 2013 at 4:43 AM
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Also..
We cannot make everyone happy..
tis completely impossible
posted by
SomeoneElse
on August 16, 2013 at 9:00 PM
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I imagine, those that are trying to control you might be the first ones to say on most other instances..
"You should never let anyone keep you under their thumb, you are too good for that.."
If the tables were turned..
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SomeoneElse
on August 16, 2013 at 8:59 PM
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KABU
In something we must control for ourselves and others and as you mentioned where their is mutual respect. For som reason many around me think respect goes only one way... Theirs and they attempt to influence those close to me to force me to comply, never happen. You and Wiley share what many dream and hope to have in their lives.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 16, 2013 at 8:03 PM
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I used to have ...then i took control of my life and Wiley and I live the happiest way, full of love respect and allwoing each other to be themselves....well I suppose i do manage dear Wiley just a little!!
posted by
Kabu
on August 16, 2013 at 7:52 PM
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