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Re: KABU
Good for you yes one has to draw a line.
posted by
Kabu
on August 17, 2013 at 7:02 PM
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MsJudy
He was not my boss and could not do what secretaries were paid to do or teachers because my job was administrator as his.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 16, 2013 at 7:00 PM
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lionreign
Exactly! In this case I think it had more to do with male chauvinism than anything else. This man strutted around like a peacock, had to have his back against the wall and would belittle males openly in staff meetings. He was awful.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 16, 2013 at 6:58 PM
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UtahJay
I like your sense of humor. You verify my Dad saying, hear what you want to hear. 
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 16, 2013 at 6:54 PM
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WikeyJohn
Some will drive one to habits to avoid doing something that will truly mess up your life. I am so proud of you. I always say it is never too late for change. I live it and believe it. You are a true testimony.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 16, 2013 at 6:53 PM
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LostInLife
I was paid to think as assistant principal. I understand your point.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 16, 2013 at 6:49 PM
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NAUT
It was how he said it and in front of whom. He did not understand that a principal and assistant principal are similar to a father and mother over a school in the same way a husband and wife are partners. Equal authority exists. This man felt as though he was a one man leader and that I was among the crew as his servant or personal assistant. You are absolutely right.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 16, 2013 at 6:43 PM
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FormerStudentIntern
I do my best, some are more difficult than others depending on role and place in hierarchy. Both of were administrators.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 16, 2013 at 6:38 PM
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Ciel
The extension to this man's hand was his secretary, not me. I was a school administrator not a principals lackey. I do understand what you mean by an employee. I was under the superintendent as he. He was not my boss.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 16, 2013 at 6:36 PM
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KABU
He would as me to do the job of teachers, clerks and secretaries. As assistant principal, my dignity and self respect would not allow me to be demeaned more than once. I will do anything once, but will not repeat.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 16, 2013 at 6:33 PM
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Blue Feathers
This person did get his jollies pushing others around. As assistant principal, I was co-captain, he had no right to boss me. Leading and bossing are two different issues. I agree with you.
posted by
Dr_JPT
on August 16, 2013 at 6:30 PM
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If he were my boss I would just do it, but I would not like it!
posted by
MsJudy
on August 16, 2013 at 4:53 PM
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White rebellion. If I am treated like an idiot I will behave as one for a while and do nothing that they didn't tell me to do
posted by
lionreign
on August 16, 2013 at 7:49 AM
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Lucky for me, I am at that point in life where I only have to listen to my wife...When I hear her I mean.
posted by
UtahJay
on August 15, 2013 at 10:56 PM
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Dr JPT
You know my friend, honest time, it took years psyhotherapy and AA for me to improve but at 77 now I know I did.
posted by
WileyJohn
on August 15, 2013 at 9:03 PM
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I say "Ok" and move on to my instructions.. I am not paid to think, as said below - I am only an extension and try my best to do as I am expected as fast as possible and quitting time is quitting time..
posted by
SomeoneElse
on August 15, 2013 at 6:10 PM
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DrJ
As in so many cases, here too it's often a matter not so much of what is being said, but how it is being said...
posted by
Nautikos
on August 15, 2013 at 4:38 PM
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I try to do my best to ignore the behavior.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on August 15, 2013 at 11:23 AM
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I once had to explain to an employee, No, i don't want you to think--
I want you to do what I need done.
An employee is, in a sense, an extension of the employer's hands. Of course, it does depend on the job. Some jobs, initiative and creative thinking are just the ticket. Other times... you really truly just need the damned lightbulb replaced, and asap.
posted by
Ciel
on August 15, 2013 at 11:11 AM
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I don't think he was necessarily treating you like an "idioit," as much as it seemed he was treating you as if you were a four-year-old! Yeah, some people let what little power they actually have go to their heads, and perhaps it made him feel somewhat better to be able to boss someone else around. I wouldn't have worried about it . . .
posted by
JimmyA
on August 15, 2013 at 10:42 AM
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i would do as asked and keep my head down. He's obviously a cupboard drinker and at some time will be found out.
posted by
Kabu
on August 15, 2013 at 10:33 AM
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I try to do as I am asked by superiors so long as the request is ethical. Some supervisors get their "jollies" by shoving people around I think.
posted by
Blue_feathers
on August 15, 2013 at 8:39 AM
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