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At least you know what became of her. The Church handled it badly, but the church is made of people who sometimes do not do things the Christian way. Thinking of the good times in your friendship may help. By the way, I never heard of paw-paws, but will look them up.
posted by
mariss9
on July 3, 2013 at 9:47 PM
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Sorry to know this
It is very rare to have someone to call a friend these day..
posted by
Saif_AlKindi
on July 2, 2013 at 10:31 AM
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I'm so sorry
to hear about the loss of a dear friend! I was very disturbed by the story of how that church treated those people - religious groups always claim to be built on love an acceptance, but actions speak louder than words... 
posted by
Mia890
on July 2, 2013 at 7:59 AM
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My thoughts are much the same as those written here by Simone, TAPS.
posted by
adnohr
on July 2, 2013 at 7:18 AM
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It's always a little sad to lose friends, wether to life or to death but I think you are right to take a moment to be grateful for what was
posted by
lionreign
on July 2, 2013 at 4:27 AM
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I'm so sorry about the passing of your dear friend. Your cherishing the memories and holding your friendship with her dear to your heart.
posted by
yellowrose55
on July 1, 2013 at 11:23 PM
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Re: Nautikos
There were quite a few members who excommunicated themselves over this incident. I already had moved on because I saw how things had changed over the years.
posted by
TAPS.
on July 1, 2013 at 10:10 PM
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I am truly sorry for your loss Taps. I believe that sometimes, souls who at the time of their passing had unresolved issues hang around here on earth and try to contact those who they believe they have unfinished business with. The fact that you throughout the years have thought so often of your friend and tried to find her, might have been inspired by her desire to find closure with you, your souls somehow communicating at a level that we, being alive, intuitivly sense but not quite understand. I hope you find comfort in the thought that perhaps she loved you as much as you loved her and that even though circumstances kept you apart, she might have wanted you to know what you with your efforts found out, the reason she had to leave. Be well my friend xoxoxo
posted by
Sinome
on July 1, 2013 at 9:12 PM
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TAPS
It's sad that you lost your friend. But when I was reading about the events at the church, I was reminded of the Spanish Inquisition! Alright, there was no auto da fe, but these people were literally excommunicated for not allowing themselves to be brow-beaten into a 'confession of sin.' If I had been a member of that congregation (okay, a ludicrous idea, LOL, but let's go with this thought for present purposes) I would have told that pastor to kiss my derriere and then I would have excommunicated myself...
posted by
Nautikos
on July 1, 2013 at 8:49 PM
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TAPS
I cannot fathom such action. I see that the man and his wife needed counsel; however, the woman may not have had any such attraction but rather a friendliness toward the father with no job. The point that her parents were considered guilty at all is such a Judgement issue that I find unChristian. Let the one without sin throw the first stone. I am so sorry.
posted by
Justi
on July 1, 2013 at 5:39 PM
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sometimes Churches, which is people of course,have so much to answer for...but i better not get started.
posted by
Kabu
on July 1, 2013 at 12:46 PM
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I hope you find her, and can tell her
that you are no part of that kind of Morality Police thinking that makes some churches other than what they should be.
posted by
Ciel
on July 1, 2013 at 12:42 PM
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That is sad how her church group treated her...I am glad that you were able to find out what happened to her.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on July 1, 2013 at 10:52 AM
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it sounds like this church was acting like marriage police and how can they just kick a family out is certainly not very christian of them to do that. I can relate to shaky marriages and being in lala land.
posted by
Lanetay
on July 1, 2013 at 8:45 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss, freshly felt now. I'm sorry your friend
lost her church and her dignity. It ticks me off even now and at such a distance to think of how that church group acted so cruelly.
posted by
Pat_B
on July 1, 2013 at 5:38 AM
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Yes it is sad,but we cannot share everyone's grief and at least you have found an answer which grants some satisfaction even if it is not a happy one.
posted by
C_C_T
on June 30, 2013 at 11:41 PM
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