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Re: JimmyA
Well, Wiley, I've never heard of a "termination of friendship" missile, but I'm sure it was effective! The difference between your situation and mine is that I never really actually considered this person a "friend," let alone a cousin. But I'm glad you understood and could relate to my predictiment. I think everyone has at least one person in their lives that, if they can't cut them out completely, will do the next best thing . . . try to avoid them whenever possible! 
posted by
JimmyA
on December 14, 2012 at 4:49 AM
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JimmyA
Oh yeah, you hit a nerve there alrighty. The guy I had to get the heck out of my life-and it took me 20 years to do it-was a college psychologist counsellor. He was a control freak and really an immoral freak that thought he kept it hidden. Finally I sent his wife an e-mail and told her I'd stayed friendy since my wife died, but the four way relationship was over and I didn't want to associate with THEM any longer. I thought I'd play with his head as I ended it by sending his wife the 'termination of friendship' missile.LOL
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WileyJohn
on December 13, 2012 at 6:16 PM
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So very true, Utah. I just find it's somewhat easier to make the effort to avoid certain individuals rather than be forced to stand there, acting civil, and being tortured! You put on that silly smile, while your brain is screaming "Shut up! Shut up! Shut up! Don't go away angry . . . just go away!"
posted by
JimmyA
on December 13, 2012 at 12:09 PM
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I am like you, I pretend for a while and then just before I feel the urge to say something cruel, I leave...Life is too short to walk on egg shells.
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UtahJay
on December 13, 2012 at 9:56 AM
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Me too, lustor. Like I wrote, he never actually did anything to me, but he's just annoying enough to make my "Please Go Away!" list! 
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JimmyA
on December 13, 2012 at 8:32 AM
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That must happen a lot too, mariss. While my "cousin" was jabbering away, my mind was on a dozen other things at that moment ( like what I wanted for dinner! ). I only showed enough interest to not insult him completely, but I'm sure my body language and facial expressions conveyed my almost complete disinterest! One can never look foolish when one is trying to rid themselves of a pest!
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JimmyA
on December 13, 2012 at 8:30 AM
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You may not feel that way, TAPS, if you were in his presence for more than a couple of minutes! Never mind "galoot!" My dad used to refer to this particular cousin as a "gleep!" ( and no, I have no idea what that means or where it came from, but I have a pretty good idea what it's referring to! )
posted by
JimmyA
on December 13, 2012 at 8:27 AM
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I guess, Annicita, we're all in the same boat with this one. Not everyone can like everyone else, and I'm sure there are people out there who don't enjoy my company for one reason or another as well. But there are some people who only have two sides . . . "Oh no, here he comes!" and "Oh good, he's leaving!"
posted by
JimmyA
on December 13, 2012 at 8:25 AM
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Re: you made me feel like telling the guy to go away....I learned to be sweet.
That may have worked, Kabu, but then again, knowing how this particular "cousin" is, it probably wouldn't have. I'm sure you know those kinds of people out there who just can't take a hint, no matter how "direct" you are! In this case, it was simply better to grit my teeth, be polite, and thank the kitchen staff later for getting his food out to him when they did!
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JimmyA
on December 13, 2012 at 8:22 AM
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Thank you, Ramfamily.Glad you enjoyed it. Hopefully, there are no annoying "step cousins" in your life!
posted by
JimmyA
on December 13, 2012 at 8:19 AM
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Well, Naut, I'm sure we've all been in that particular situation from time to time. Sometimes it's good to be completely honest and speak your mind, but I guess not to the point where it turns you into a social pariah. As always, discretion is the better part of valor, I guess. But once the words are out of your mouth . . .
posted by
JimmyA
on December 13, 2012 at 8:17 AM
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As I'm sure it does with many people, FSI. Like I wrote, I can only hold on for so long. Sometimes I actually start leaning in the opposite direction. If that isn't a "tell" I don't know what is!
posted by
JimmyA
on December 13, 2012 at 8:13 AM
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Re: This explains a lot...
Why would you think that, Ciel? Do you actually feel you're overbearing enough to cause similar discomfort to others? I find that hard to believe!
posted by
JimmyA
on December 13, 2012 at 8:11 AM
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I dislike very few people but there is always someone that makes the bad list. Hope its a while before you see him again
posted by
Lanetay
on December 13, 2012 at 7:46 AM
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Too good apparently, because they don't always go away that fast. Maybe it is better in some cases, to be more real in a controlled way. Or, I try to pretend I am interested and no telling how foolish I look to them.
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mariss9
on December 12, 2012 at 9:20 PM
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He may not be the sharpest tool in the shed, but you make me feel sorry for the poor galoot.
posted by
TAPS.
on December 12, 2012 at 9:19 PM
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sure....i have been one that prays someone doesnt come over and probably one they pray doesnt come over...
posted by
Annicita
on December 12, 2012 at 9:07 PM
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you made me feel like telling the guy to go away....I learned to be sweet.
Soft voice, smile, and innocent as I let them know by denying it that I don'r want them around me.
As in that situation this is me.
"i would like to sit and chat but my wife and I have just been through a stressful time...I know that you can understand ....I just know that you especially of everyone I know will understand that we just can't talk at this time. we really have to be rude but I know you understand.....we need to be alone.....
posted by
Kabu
on December 12, 2012 at 6:20 PM
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You're writing is very entertaining, my friend.
posted by
RamfamilyWritings
on December 12, 2012 at 6:01 PM
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Jimmy
Not very...I must confess that that I've been known to make inappropriate remarks...
posted by
Nautikos
on December 12, 2012 at 3:51 PM
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My body language tells a lot as well.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on December 12, 2012 at 10:39 AM
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This explains a lot...
I must be that guy.
posted by
Ciel
on December 12, 2012 at 10:23 AM
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