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Pat
That touches all kinds of things...No, I was never abandoned, LOL - it's all rather complicated...
posted by
Nautikos
on November 18, 2012 at 7:22 PM
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That's never happened to me, but I don't think I would like it very well. In fact, I think I would freak out.
posted by
TAPS.
on November 17, 2012 at 11:50 PM
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It's difficult to takea position here about who's right and who's wrong
as far as the disappearance goes. But one thing is cerrtain - that at a larger level, societal solutions are called for and we haven't put our heads together for viable solutions.
posted by
Straightforward
on November 17, 2012 at 6:37 PM
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PatB
Life sure has some wicked twists to upset us luv, that's quite a story.
posted by
WileyJohn
on November 17, 2012 at 2:51 PM
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Oh I run off for 4 months when my sons were teenagers, took a trip around
the World. Now that story is true but has been spun. I guess it was like that with your Mother. Your Brother spun the story so it sounded awful but was actually a sorry mix up.
posted by
Kabu
on November 17, 2012 at 1:39 PM
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Re:Pat, thanks for the explanation!
I feel better about the whole scene now!
posted by
Ciel
on November 17, 2012 at 1:11 PM
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Re: Ciel This is a smack in the abandonment issues!
She told it on herself. It's one of the top ten mixups in the family saga. But in a group setting, it was considered good manners to let the story's protagonist tell it.
posted by
Pat_B
on November 17, 2012 at 9:46 AM
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This is a smack in the abandonment issues!
So.. Jim hugs her to say she is forgiven... but if he had truly forgiven her, would he have told the story in her presence, in front of everyone? That doesn't look like good humor or forgiveness to me. It looks like revenge.
posted by
Ciel
on November 17, 2012 at 9:27 AM
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I can't even imagine my parents doing anything like that . . . to any of us! But then again, I have no idea what it must be like to deal with someone with a less-than-sound mind for years and years. A difficult tightwalk to walk, I suppose. 
posted by
JimmyA
on November 17, 2012 at 8:58 AM
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You have been through rough times Pat, it is easy for those who have a normal family life to wonder why people are sometimes upset over memories that were so painful at the time. Not many would have comforted an ex who had been no comfort.Forgiveness has to be earned, but pity delivers occasionally.
posted by
C_C_T
on November 17, 2012 at 6:33 AM
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wow! but having dealt with someone like that I kinda understand...we had a guy in the news like that years ago...they feared for their lives and he couldnt be forced to take his meds....i think eventually he killed someone...how sad
posted by
Annicita
on November 17, 2012 at 6:18 AM
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Oh wow - at least Bird and I saw our parents drive away, although we were too young at the time to realize it was forever. Not sure how I would handle this kind of thing emotionally, being older and able to react....how? Kudos to Jim, who seems to have taken it in stride. His way is probably the best way.
posted by
adnohr
on November 17, 2012 at 5:57 AM
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