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What a lot of stuff you have been through! One thing I know is that she is EVIL and will do whatever she can to sabatoge you! You are a good man and don't let her win! I had a greedy ex and they always think they are the victim but they victimize! The thing you have in your favor is that your son is 11 and he can tell the judge what he wants and why he wants it! The hearing officer is no doubt on her side but the truth will win out! Keep track of everything she does and date it! It won't be long before a pattern develops! It is unrealistic to have to pay more than $800 dollars when she is working, too! I disliked being in the court system when I was divorced but I got through it! Get your son back, he needs a male figure in his life! That's gospel for me because I did not remarry nor have a boyfriend and it's too damn hard when the figure is missing! I did fine with my daughter but it had lasting effects on my oldest son! He's a mess to this day although he is getting better little by little! I wish you all the best and I will pray that you get your son for his own good! Congratulations on the upcoming new baby! How fun for you! Take care and rely on God's strength to get you through this! BTW, it will never matter if you pass a drug test she will find another phony thing to go after you with, know who you are and be satisfied! I am glad you got this off your chest! sam 
posted by
sam444
on December 16, 2011 at 11:56 AM
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to Dr...
Thank you for the verses. I am about to look them up. Been busy with work and haven't had time to follow up. I have full faith GOD will pull me and my family thru. God BLess
posted by
aceblade
on December 16, 2011 at 10:53 AM
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"This I recall to my mind, therefore have I hope. It is of the LORD's mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness." ~ Lamentations 3:21-23
posted by
TAPS.
on December 12, 2011 at 9:07 PM
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Aceblade, from a different perspective, I suggest that you let go and give the situation to God. You have done your best. With an attorney and a teacher, you will not win. Focus on your new family, comply to the court orders and stop trying to prove anything!!
When you let go and focus on what you have within your sight and reach, things will get better for you. I realize you love your son, yet you must consider that ex's often use the love of their ex, and use the child as a weapon, spy or messenger. Do not allow yourself to be controlled in that manner.
Read Psalms 35, 37, 91 & 118. Enjoy your dream job and be grateful. God can make a way so that your wife will not have to return to work. 
posted by
Dr_JPT
on December 11, 2011 at 9:02 PM
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Sam I have full faith in GOD. As you probably know I am going on 2 years clean and sober. My wife is still pouring the coals to me and makes me have supervised visits with my 11 year old son; who I raised. In 2005 I actually had to take my son from her bc she was fooling around with Meth (illicit drug/speed). I never stopped her from seeing him, merely just made sure that her drug dealing boyfriend wasn't going around my son and after several weeks everything was fine. She is a school teacher and I helped her get back on her feet although we are divorced and I am re-married. I could have won FULL CUSTODY! But, I knew GOD didn't want me to take my young son's mother from him so I gave her the benefit of the doubt. After 10 years of being prescribed oxycontin, I decided I had to quit. I checked into rehab and in the summer of 2010, I started a new journey. My ex, and her attorney has asked me to take numerous hair follicle tests to prove I am not on pain meds. I have done the tests and passed all of them. The last two hearings, my ex told the hearing officer that she thought I cheated the test. So, I was ordered to take a third one on the day of the hearing. Because of the fact that I keep my hair very short, when I had the last one done, the nurse had to take chunks out of my hair....so I buzz cut it. So, needless to say, the drug screening company told me they couldn't take the test. The hearing officer,, Tamra, has one or two daughters that play softball at the highschool where my ex wife works. So, I believe the hearing officer is being biased. I had two letters that my son wrote me within the last month about his mother's multiple boyfriennds and alcoholic behavior and expressed how bad he wanted to live with me and my wife and his little sister. When his mother found out that he emailed me that, she punished him and called him a liar. So, she is trying to censor our communication. I have done everything the court has asked me to do and nothing is good enough or the rules change. My attorney just let me know that if I don't win custody, I will be paying $850/mth in child support plus health ins. (which I would do anyway). But, my son's mother lives with her mother, no bills, and because I worked hard over the last 15 years and landed the best job of my life, I have to give her a piece of the pie. My wife and I have a three year old daughter (Dansing Lily) and with the GOOD LORD WILLING, my wife will give birth to Ali Jase on Jan. 5, 2012. Our second daughter. Although I make a good living, due to my ex-wife's greed, my wife will have to go back to work and I will have to pay over a thoussand a month in child care. LOL! Thanks for letting me vent Sam....been a while!!!! But, I KNOW the good LORD will see me through!
posted by
aceblade
on December 10, 2011 at 6:02 AM
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I offer an Amen! He knows what's in your heart right now! He hears your pleas for we all fall short of the glory of the Lord! He also delights in your repentance and it makes you more loving in His eyes in my humble opinion! sam
posted by
sam444
on December 10, 2011 at 3:23 AM
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