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🍓Indeed, God has a plan love. BC-A, Bill’s Roost
posted by
BC-A
on August 17, 2015 at 2:15 PM
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We always think...
That as parents we are not doing what our child needs. But it seems to me that you care so much and that it's very important to you that your son is happy. Years from now he's going to say, My mom was always there for me. She loves me and no matter what I knew it.... So there you go. I just looked into the future for you. Now please take care of yourself so you're there when he's saying that.
posted by
RedHeadedGypsy
on April 20, 2012 at 10:58 AM
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MiaElla, all of the info you have been given is excellent advice but you
must take the next step to better yourself! You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink it. Please take the next step. Consider your son and your future; rather than the father who is not around to love and support you. A house is just that. A house...and can be replaced with an apt. or rooms to rent or some other lodging that can be figured with your income to pay the rent. But your son and your health is another matter. You can't replace your son so do all you can for him and if you don't take the necessary steps for you to get assistance, you will not be here to take care of your son! You are depressed as well as having medical problems so you need to keep on with finding help for your problems so that you can get well! Keep asking questions about anything and everything to do with your situation and let God do the rest. Put it in His hands and be patient. Sometimes one question might lead you to another person who can help you. And most of all, keep writing on your blog, in your journal or where ever you like on anything that's happening to you at a given moment. "Talking" through it helps you "get" through it. I am looking for people to write to my nephew and a couple of other guys in prison. They, too, are sad and lonely and need a "friend" to talk to. Check out my blog and then email me if you are interested in sharing your life with others who are in a bad situation, too.
posted by
Butterfly-1950
on August 29, 2011 at 2:16 PM
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If they told you that, it's probably because they want to go after the father to contribute to your living expenses. If you really don't what to tell them, go one better and say you don't know, you're not sure. Who cares what they think (and nobody is placed to judge anyone anyway) as long as you get the help you need? In my area we have community programs to help out those having difficulties, both financially and even to free babysitting now & then to give mom a break. I think some of the ideas in the comments are a good place to start. And don't be shy - write it out. It's good therapy, and it's for sure no-one in Blogit will look down on you - we've all had times when we need each other. Hugs to you!!!...and of course, a SMILE!
posted by
adnohr
on August 20, 2011 at 8:04 PM
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Annicita
Yeah...I've looked into government assistance. Don't qualify for medicaid, food stamps, welfare, because I wouldn't give them the name of my son's father. Weird.
posted by
MiaElla
on August 20, 2011 at 11:50 AM
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here are a more few suggestions for you.....1. try a food pantry to subsidize your groceries.....2. call the united way....they have many connections and sources of help that can refer you to .....3. check with your local church......4. their are also many government programs available.....food stamps, medicaid etc.....5. remember this too shall pass....good luck dear .... my prayers are with you and your family
posted by
Annicita
on August 20, 2011 at 7:30 AM
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Oh, God!...please don't cry! You'll get me going again!
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on August 19, 2011 at 6:08 PM
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hi !
posted by
Whacky
on August 19, 2011 at 4:32 PM
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aw Christy
you trying to make me cry...
posted by
MiaElla
on August 19, 2011 at 1:45 PM
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Mia...
OMG Honey...Don't EVER hold in your pain. Believe it or not, that will actually make the physical pain much worse. I know how difficult it is to be in constant pain-though I have days when there is no pain at all-so if you ever need someone to talk to or just listen, I'm here.
It isn't your fault that you're sick, and it's not your fault that little E.J. is sick. Somewhere inside, this little guy knows how much you love him. Don't ever doubt or forget that. I wish I lived closer to you. I'd help you out with little E.J. whenever I could.
I know you asked me for my address a while back...I haven't been doing great physically myself since around the end of April but I'll email it to you as soon as I can.
May I make a suggestion sweetie? I think you should seriously think of applying for SSI for both yourself and E.J. Due to your chronic illnesses, I think you'd both be entitled and in the off chance you have to eventually stop working altogether, you'll need something to fall back on.
I know how hard it is to be alone. But you have more friends around you than you know. You're like family to us here, and we'll always have your back. No matter what you might go through.
It's okay to feel sad when it comes and to feel angry, too. Just don't let the sadness overshadow your daily life. Maybe you should find someone to talk to professionally? Just to help you cope.
I say, work as much as you can, but at least consider the SSI option and maybe try to find some work you can do at home?
I hope I haven't stepped on any toes? That's the last thing I meant to do!
My love to you and E.J. I'll be in touch as soon as I can.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on August 19, 2011 at 12:06 PM
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