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posted by
_Symphony_
on July 22, 2011 at 2:20 AM
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Some people change (I do all the time) and some are not willing. It is probably best to check them out before making any serious committments.
posted by
mariss9
on July 20, 2011 at 8:57 AM
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some people can change, I am witnessing it with my son in law who was heavy into drugs and in jail more than I want to count and I worry about my daughter being in this relationship as drugs have done some bad things to his mind. I hope your man has changed and will stay changed.
posted by
Lanetay
on July 16, 2011 at 8:40 AM
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I have to agree with Ciel; I have been on the other side of someone who wanted me to change. I was made to feel that I had to change to become acceptable. Change needs to be for oneself, at a healthy, self-affirming pace.
posted by
Against4WindsOn2Flam
on July 14, 2011 at 4:28 PM
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Thank you all so much, much appreciated.
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 14, 2011 at 9:26 AM
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Symphony
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posted by
BC-A
on July 14, 2011 at 6:10 AM
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Total transformation
Yes, you can change and it dos not have to be slow but yoy must put yourself at the feet of your creator whatever you take that/Him to be, empty yourself of all your pain, ask for the maximisation of all your highest capacities, sacrifice seriously to create the space for recreation, believe and act. No-one told me this when I was struggling. Now I know it. I learned it at UCKG. They can teach it to you too. You are blessed. You are God's creation and the questions you ask are your demand for a better life.
posted by
RoseyP
on July 13, 2011 at 1:45 PM
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Symphony, I know you have gone through some real changes--
I remember when I first read you here, and then when you came back after being gone a while, you spoke of the changes in your life and awareness.
Old issues may need to be resolved, in order to move into a new relationship. I doubt that the past can be simply forgotten, without both sides being spoken out and listened to, and responded to. People need to understand what happened, what went wrong, in order to feel safe that it wont' go wrong again.
posted by
Ciel
on July 13, 2011 at 1:23 PM
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Thanks Christy ...
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 13, 2011 at 12:09 PM
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Thanks Ciel, for your advice and words...
I just edited my post and added it a little more, as you made me think....I have changed myself!
can two people really forget the past and not bring up old issues ? blah blah......I will be back to fully explain later, its 8pm here in the UK, once the children are in bed, I will come back online and catch up with everybody ....Thanks Ciel for your comment and for making me think.....
posted by
_Symphony_
on July 13, 2011 at 12:08 PM
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For myself, I honestly think it depends on what they've said and/or done. I hope all is well?
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on July 13, 2011 at 11:56 AM
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the only change we can rely on, is our own.
What changes in us is what makes a new relationship possible. Or a reframe of an old one.
I don't think we can expect the other to change, nor even need them to: that is an exercise in futility and disappointment, more often than not.
Yes, I believe other people change, too, but the danger in renewing an old relationship is that certain established patterns of behavior and expectation will still exert some force: you have to change something up there... something that can start you together on a whole new track.
That's my theory, anyway, and advice: Never ever try to re-create an old relationship!
posted by
Ciel
on July 13, 2011 at 10:58 AM
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