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It is one of the most beautiful love poems I have ever read.
posted by
adnohr
on March 1, 2011 at 8:55 PM
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Re: we all have insecurities......I have spent so much money because I came to
I feel it goes well beyond insecurity. I wrote the poem back in '09 after reading statistics about how few marriages survive this level of illness. On top of that, I was getting chemo at the time and couldn't be Ginny's caretaker the way I had been. The nursing care costs that year were ruinous. Since then we've brought them under some control, but the other problems don't go away. Yes, we've come to love each other deeply, but the hypothetical question in that poem? I'd mistrust any glib answers. Our relationship is rich, but demands a lot.
posted by
2902
on March 1, 2011 at 2:55 PM
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Re: Re: I guess the question can have different answers, but I know what mine
would have been had I been able to read the future. What I try to say in the poem is that, despite what the
MS has entailed - and still has in store - I do love her.
posted by
2902
on March 1, 2011 at 2:20 PM
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Re: I guess the question can have different answers, but I know what mine
posted by
2902
on March 1, 2011 at 2:15 PM
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Re: Re: (oops) April 3 Ginny and I will celebrate our 40th. We're still
(oops again) learning about love and illness. There are few illusions left after one partner becomes paralyzed and can do next to nothing for him/herself. You spend a lot of time remembering what he or she used to be like.
It;s not all that grim - we laugh - but it's hard.
posted by
2902
on March 1, 2011 at 2:12 PM
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Re: (oops) April 3 Ginny and I will celebrate our 40th. We're still
posted by
2902
on March 1, 2011 at 1:51 PM
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Re:April 3 Ginny ans
posted by
2902
on March 1, 2011 at 1:47 PM
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we all have insecurities......I have spent so much money because I came to
Canada....double tax now on top of everything else is eaten away my nest egg........would I have not come to Wiley if I had known? Of course I have no regrets.
posted by
Kabu
on March 1, 2011 at 10:29 AM
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I love my wife too, but I'm not so sure I would want her to marry me again...all the Hell I've put her through, but it is a good question to ask I think.
posted by
UtahJay
on March 1, 2011 at 7:40 AM
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Would we do what we have done in light of what is and what should be? That is an impossible question to ask and even harder to answerto answer... because what was , was and will always be a factor in our decisions... Love is love and an illness does not end it, it might change it, the way its expressed... but Love endures if its true, Trust me Bob I know this :-) and you and her and your love are better for having lasted beyond the fairytale... and written your own. Be well my friend xoxoxo
posted by
Sinome
on March 1, 2011 at 5:41 AM
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