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Tough love
I think tough love is the way to go. I had to do that with an acquaintance in my life, and now she has come a long way in straightening out her life.
posted by
Against4WindsOn2Flam
on January 17, 2011 at 12:00 PM
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Prayers going up for you and your family. I read your posts about your aunt and wonder if this is my daughter in a few years. It is heartbreaking but at some point family has to realize they cannot make the choices for an addict.
posted by
dancin_grandma
on January 16, 2011 at 5:39 AM
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Y This circle needs to be mended love. BC-A, Bill’s R®st
posted by
BC-A
on January 15, 2011 at 7:38 PM
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I am so sorry
I know firsthand how certain family members can create trouble in a marriage. It's not easy dealing with someone who fails to see how their behavior hurts others...or maybe they just don't care, it's always hard to tell with that type.
posted by
Bel_
on January 15, 2011 at 6:17 PM
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Samantha
Maybe you could take her to an AA meeting and it might just get hold of her. God works in strange ways luv.
posted by
WileyJohn
on January 15, 2011 at 2:53 PM
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I find it very, very difficult to practice tough love with such a person.
To me tough love seems uncaring. But, what's a family member or significant other to do?
It's all such a depressing thing.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 15, 2011 at 2:37 PM
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sometimes you just can't help them
and sometimes it's not even worth trying...no matter how related they are...
posted by
chris2303
on January 15, 2011 at 10:25 AM
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she sounds like a real "gem", Samantha....
and I am using that term very loosely..
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posted by
Rumor
on January 15, 2011 at 10:20 AM
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I don't blame you for not wanting her around at all...
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on January 14, 2011 at 6:32 PM
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Oh dear and yes let husband deal with her, his patience will quick run out.
her only hope is if no one helps her...she will either help herself or not. Sad I know but if she wants to drink more than anything....she will.
posted by
Kabu
on January 14, 2011 at 6:07 PM
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Is she related to the British Librarian? LOL Wow, sounds like a handful!
posted by
Ariala
on January 14, 2011 at 5:15 PM
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i agree
she does need a dose of tough love. however, the other day i was told my a neurosurgeon that there is no test that can positively prove being bi-polar, i am btw doing some research on this, because i am such an inquisitive person, maybe this time she will realize , and get into AA, it does work, i have a friend who has been in it for years, he goes faithfully, still even after 14 years, Bless yall, ur in our prayers
posted by
jesse_jean
on January 14, 2011 at 2:10 PM
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She needs a dose of tough love! Anyone who offers help at this point will only be enabling her behavior! I know it is tough but she has to see the error of her ways before she will make a change to a better quality of life! Many people have come from rough backgrounds and have had awful things happen to them, I am among that group, but it is about how one overcomes obstacles and puts a quality life together that is most significant to me! Good luck and it would be a huge mistake to have her move in because she will never get it going for herself it others provide for her! I hope she gets help because drinking and driving only adds up to a huge problem in one form or another! She needs to take ownership and admit she is an alcoholic and seek help; professional help! sam
posted by
sam444
on January 14, 2011 at 12:25 PM
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