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This gruesome and heart-wrenching experience deserves to end, as most things do. I do not indulge in illusions, bur I do indulge hope. I am certain that all of this will eventually subside, one way or the other. I admire sense of resolve, and will pray this friday for you and your daughter.
posted by
eurime
on December 9, 2010 at 11:37 PM
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Bel, both you and Pam are in my prayers....
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posted by
Rumor
on December 7, 2010 at 10:50 AM
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Oh Bel, what a story! No wonder some children go off the rails - and then, as you say, are blamed for it. Who was it said, "To understand all is to forgive all" or words to that effect? My thoughts and prayers are with you all as you gather your family back together.
posted by
Rockingrector_retd
on December 7, 2010 at 9:25 AM
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Re: Oh, this is enough to break a heart. Many hearts.
Pat,
I like to say I quit being shocked by the things she does but each time, it simply gets worse. Pam is not a perfect child but she is a darned good one when she is treated with love and yes, even disipline and boundaries. She voices her displeasure when she doesn't get her way, is known to slam a door and door and stomp off but name me a teen who doesn't? I find it stunning that Carl and I have never ever had the problems with Pam that her mother claims...
Thank you so much.
posted by
Bel_
on December 7, 2010 at 8:58 AM
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Re: I feel emotionally drained after reading this
I agree Malcolm.
posted by
Bel_
on December 7, 2010 at 8:55 AM
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Re: Hi Bel,
Thank you very much Amanda.
posted by
Bel_
on December 7, 2010 at 8:55 AM
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Re: FSI
It blows my mind every single day.
posted by
Bel_
on December 7, 2010 at 8:54 AM
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Re: There is so much pain in this world I am sorry for Pam, I am sorry for you
Kabu,
We both suffered from PTSD and yes, it still bites us from time to time. I have to be sure Pam has all the stability possible over the next two years until she graduates. I will do what is best for her and Carl and I can be as selfish as we want after she is out of school.
posted by
Bel_
on December 7, 2010 at 8:54 AM
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Re: Now for the part of my trip that broke my heart
Thank you Cheery.
posted by
Bel_
on December 7, 2010 at 8:52 AM
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Re: Elyse
Thank you so much my friend.
posted by
Bel_
on December 7, 2010 at 8:52 AM
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Re: Bel
Naut,
I have actually started using Pat's term for that woman. Pam is tough, but I am tired of watching my child have to be tough because the system keeps failing her. I am waiting for Pam to turn 18 as I don't trust that system to come back at her with a vengeance and I am exposing that whole damn mess as loud as I can. She is planning to leave the area when she graduates from high school and as much as it will break my heart to see her go, I want her as far from that mess as possible for her own well being. Thanks my friend.
posted by
Bel_
on December 7, 2010 at 8:52 AM
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Re: Sam
Spring was the original plan for the very reason you indicated but after this visit, I realize more than ever, I need to be closer to Pam and more accessible when she needs me. Thank you.
posted by
Bel_
on December 7, 2010 at 8:49 AM
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Some folks are the epitome of selfishness and then they attempt to project it on others! Pam is getting a raw deal from the mother but in the end she will be fine and the mother exposed for what she is and then Pam will understand she has great character for having survived the unnecessary madness. It will come about because she has you as a role model and that will be her saving grace so that she can live a healthy productive adult life! The mother is a sham! I will be praying! If I were you I would wait for a spring thaw to head to the U.P.! lol sam
posted by
sam444
on December 7, 2010 at 8:41 AM
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Bel
Pat's right: that disgusting 'egg donor' ought to be and
can be removed from Pam's life in a couple of years, and that'll be it. And in the meantime you, her Mom, can continue to give her all the love she needs...
posted by
Nautikos
on December 7, 2010 at 8:21 AM
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<-------- in my heart, Bel ~ With your Love and your care - your insight and support, I feel she's going to be well ~ Elyse
posted by
elysianfields
on December 7, 2010 at 5:45 AM
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Now for the part of my trip that broke my heart
Prayed for you all right away.
posted by
Cheerygirl
on December 6, 2010 at 7:21 PM
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There is so much pain in this world I am sorry for Pam, I am sorry for you
It is a priveledge to continue topray for your little family and I think you are wise not to just move back in with Carl but to take time. He will probably never really lose the PTSD problems completely and I agree for allyour sakes you must get it right.
posted by
Kabu
on December 6, 2010 at 5:42 PM
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Pam has sure been through a lot in her life...It's sad what some people will do to another...
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on December 6, 2010 at 4:42 PM
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Hi Bel,
I will absolutely keep all of you in my prayers.
posted by
Amanda__
on December 6, 2010 at 4:08 PM
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I feel emotionally drained after reading this
So many unanswered questions of a society that cares so little I think.
posted by
malcolm
on December 6, 2010 at 8:34 AM
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Oh, this is enough to break a heart. Many hearts.
Hearing about such behavior on the part of her egg donor (I refuse to call a bitch like that a mother) quickly turns my thoughts to awful and permanent solutions. Not necessarily a thing that would help the child in any way, though. In two more years your daughter can cut all ties with the evil. I pray for strength and hope for her and you and Carl, too.
posted by
Pat_B
on December 6, 2010 at 7:13 AM
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