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Hmmm --- I don't know. Listening to my children today I never knew what 'power' my voice and passive --- more assertive commands inserted in their psyche. I claim, I did my best - I am human with flaws. I never understood how over protective I was until now. Food for thought, D - Elyse
posted by
elysianfields
on September 29, 2010 at 9:07 AM
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dont think that would be child abuse
posted by
Lanetay
on September 27, 2010 at 8:27 AM
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its interesting how we look back and wonder if there was something
different you could have or should have done.
posted by
Tzippy
on September 26, 2010 at 11:14 PM
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Actually that sounded pretty normal to me
Not for just my child but most any child. Daddy trying to get control of the child, while Mom simply has to give a look or use a certain tone of voice and the child snaps into line. Why? Because unfortunately for most mom's out there, we are the one who puts discipline into place, the child often takes us more seriously because for many Mom is the primary caregiver. Is it fun to be the one that can get the child into line so easily? No, in fact it stinks but it has to be done.
Cryptic messages? Trust me they are simply shortened version of what the child has heard in the past, it's not even close to cryptic to them...they know EXACTLY what it means. Sorry this may sound sexist, but for the most part Dad is the fun parent while Mom gets the part that Dad doesn't want.
My daughter to this day at the age of 16 admits openly "Mom doesn't play games. Dad I can talk into things." Her dad admits that is true.
posted by
Bel_
on September 26, 2010 at 5:45 PM
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There is nothing wrong with having a phrase that indicates to your children that you have reached the point of no return and that if desobeyed beyond that poing there will be consequences... If you did not have to use that tactic with yours ... good for you! But I am here to tell you my friend that either they were very good kids... you were married to wonderwoman or you were an amazingly efficient daddy , perhaps all three!!! :-) Whatever the reason you should be happy you did not need help controling the chaos that sometimes can ensue when we have children...Its not child abuse to need help , whatever form that help takes, and neither it is neglect not to need or use aids to parent... Listen , when we have kids they do not come with a manual and most of us do the best we know how...its like whatever floats your boat its fine...You sound like a wonderful guy... your kids were lucky :-) for the rest of us strugling mere mortals loll... whether its counting to three , saying "right quick", or doing whatever works best we for darn sure need all the help we can get ... xoxoxo
posted by
Sinome
on September 26, 2010 at 5:20 PM
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