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Re: bel
Thanks so much Timmy. It's good to see you around here as well.
posted by
Bel_
on September 24, 2010 at 11:39 AM
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bel
First off, it is good to see you again (or read you). We all (I think) look at our parents and how we were raised. Wen we have a family of our own, we think of the things that we are not going to do that our parents did. You have done a good thing by not enabling your mother to make you feel bad, or responsible. Remember, only you can make yourself feel bad. You are a strong person, believe in yourself!!
posted by
TIMMYTALES
on September 24, 2010 at 10:53 AM
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Re: I found out the hard way that the more help you give some people
Pat,
So true my friend. I was thinking about your comment last night and something struck me. A mothers love should simply be that thing that we do because we are the mother and that child is ours...it's instinct, it's our nature. We don't have always like what our child does but by nature alone, we can't help but love that child.
So for me, my focus is on my daughter and making sure she has a life filled with love and security. I will never put my daughter in a position that she feel obligated to me. It kills me to give her those wings to fly but she will also know she always has a safe place to land when she is ready.
posted by
Bel_
on September 24, 2010 at 7:01 AM
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I will catch up with reading and commenting today.
posted by
Bel_
on September 23, 2010 at 8:56 AM
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I found out the hard way that the more help you give some people
the more they need. Any love that's conditional ain't love. Brava, Bel! You're giving your mom what she really needs.
posted by
Pat_B
on September 23, 2010 at 4:51 AM
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It was filled with great humor but the message was so on target! sam
posted by
sam444
on September 22, 2010 at 10:20 AM
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Re: Thank youi Bel for this....it steered me to think
SF
That is the highest compliment I could possibly receive. Thank you.
posted by
Bel_
on September 21, 2010 at 8:16 PM
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Thank youi Bel for this....it steered me to think
I'll watch the video at another time, though.
posted by
Straightforward
on September 21, 2010 at 7:21 PM
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Bel
I'm proud of you, I remember how difficult it was to mature. You have done a marvelous job of loving you first now. Blessings luv.
posted by
WileyJohn
on September 21, 2010 at 6:02 PM
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LLM,
Thank you for the kind words, but I truly don't feel I have been through any more than most people. We just all have different details. 
posted by
Bel_
on September 21, 2010 at 3:44 PM
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Hi Bel. Welcome back and thanks for visiting me. I was just thinking about you last week! I have great respect for all you have been through. Keep sticking to your guns with your mother. You're absolutely right not to give her any financial aide. While she may never learn to look out for-or after herself-it is not up to you or your siblings to care for her and her "man" in such a manner.
Just keep working on yourself and take time to reflect on the positives that have already happened for you. Don't let anyone or anything deminish what you've acheived.
posted by
lovelyladymonk
on September 21, 2010 at 3:22 PM
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So true TAPS. It's sad to see but a valuable lesson for myself.
posted by
Bel_
on September 21, 2010 at 11:42 AM
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It is amazing to what lengths people go to to fool their ownselves so that they do not have to face the truth.
posted by
TAPS.
on September 21, 2010 at 11:38 AM
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