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OMG I am so sorry, I hope I dont lose my daughter to the same thing
posted by
Lanetay
on August 11, 2010 at 9:24 AM
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Re: Mariposa
Thank you for the prayers.
posted by
dancin_grandma
on August 10, 2010 at 3:27 AM
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My heart goes out to you.... I will pray for you to have comfort and strength....
posted by
mariposa75
on August 9, 2010 at 5:52 PM
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Re: FSI
Thank you, as always, for your supportive words. I hope that someday we can mend our relationship, although it will take quite some time for any amount of trust to be re-established.
posted by
dancin_grandma
on August 9, 2010 at 3:56 AM
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Re: Adnohr
Yes, heartbreaking desperation is what I feel. Mingled with grief this weekend has been intervals of coherent thinking regarding how best to help the children. Thank you for your comments.
posted by
dancin_grandma
on August 9, 2010 at 3:54 AM
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Re: I can relate sadly..
I appreciate your feedback and also sharing your experience with me. I've been on the couch all weekend as if in a daze. I must now get up and deal with life, as I always have done. I attended Al-Anon meetings a lifetime ago when I was married to her father, who was an alcoholic. Time to check out the meetings again I think.
Thank you.
posted by
dancin_grandma
on August 9, 2010 at 3:50 AM
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I can relate sadly..
Luckily no grandchildren involved in the situations I was forced to accept and deal with; I can only imagine the compounded grief in that. She is sick, as I'm sure you know but she can reach for and genuinely work toward recovery and abstinence, But only she can do that. You must save the innocent, protect yourself and let her know you wish/pray for her wellness. That is all you can do for her. When I made this clear to my two sons, something seemed to click within them, instead of completely breaking as I feared.
They both began treatment in a seemingly determined and real way and are both currently "clean," according to their communications with me and from all obvious signs and appearances - not sure I can breathe just yet though..Addiction is a beast that must be battled anew each and every day; yet the experts say after a ton of days, the battles do get easier, but they must be continuously faced. The grieving inherent of understanding this is deep and gripping; my heart goes out to you. Have you checked into Al-Anon? The organization is a pure blessing for these situations. I wish you strength and healing for all involved.
posted by
Katray2
on August 8, 2010 at 4:44 PM
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It is heartbreaking; not only the lies and cheating and stealing - even more it's the hopeless desperation of watching someone you love go down, and there is nothing you can do to stop it. Go for your grandchildren - they need you now. They may not understand what it is yet, but they are going through the same thing as you are. Although it is not my child, I speak from experience.
posted by
adnohr
on August 8, 2010 at 4:15 PM
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So difficult it is on the soul when those who we love and trust are not the people we figure them to be. I hope and pray that your relationship with your daughter can be repaired. Like you say though she has to make that decision to change her ways, ways that are worse than what you knew.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on August 8, 2010 at 2:08 PM
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