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I hate generalizations
I honestly resent the fact that I am generalized about because I am a foreigner. It happens all the time, but of course not ALL the time. But then 'We Japanese blah blah blah' Is the explanation for something it raises my hackles. It's true, but how can one person speak for every Japanese??? But they can, do and will, forever. I also can't stand being asked how 'something is done over there'. I don't know, I am not over there, and there are a million and one ways of doing something 'over there'!! There is just a constant wall which I am too sensitive towards. So I have to be strong in myself that is the only way. And there is a looming loneliness in me that I can't rid myself of.
posted by
KaBooM62
on June 26, 2010 at 6:03 PM
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I agree with Naut's comment. My Japanese DIL and I have talked about it more than once. Repressing your natural self confidence is not always a good idea; it tends to give the wrong impression. When others treat you as they see you (because that's what you're showing them), then one can get upset. A perfect scene for depression. Personally, I think diplomatic directness and self confidence are the way to go, but, again as in Naut's comment, each culture is different, and within a culture, each person is an individual.
posted by
adnohr
on June 24, 2010 at 10:37 AM
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I think that
we are all only human...No make that human. Except for Bo
he's not human...Shhh don't tell him.
posted by
Whacky
on June 23, 2010 at 4:31 PM
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I am not sure where the line is, either! But fundamentally, if someone possess something gifted it is wise to let the gift speak for itself! sam
posted by
sam444
on June 21, 2010 at 6:17 PM
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Kaboom
An interesting post! At the risk of generalizing dangerously, it has always been my impression (based in part on personal contacts with them over extended periods of time) that Japanese
on the whole tend to be more
self-effacing and at the same time more
guarded than North Americans. But while that may be a
general tendency, there are definitely great differences between individuals...
posted by
Nautikos
on June 21, 2010 at 8:24 AM
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wow... that was kind of a deep post... but i really know what you mean.... i guess there is a line, but where to draw it is the question....
posted by
jyankee
on June 21, 2010 at 2:01 AM
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