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There's an employee of my father's I cannot stand. I just do not like her attitude.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on May 18, 2010 at 3:25 PM
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Re: lustorlove
I could never kick any of my kids out, he is a good person, never has done drugs that I know of and never gives me any trouble. He just has had it rough and I am alone so why not let him stay with me. Its not up to his girlfriends mom to bad mouth him
posted by
Lanetay
on May 17, 2010 at 7:32 PM
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Re: WHAT IRRITATES YOU??
I dont think you understand the hole story
posted by
Lanetay
on May 17, 2010 at 7:30 PM
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lustorlove
What Justi said to you expresses how I feel and good luck. I have only 2 sons and don't speak to either one of them, the oldest one for over 15 years. The biggest help I got with 2 problem sons was straight out of the Bible, one of the few things I know for sure about the Bible. "The children of your own household will become your worst enemies." I can't quote you what passage but it was in John I think. That gave me the guts to tell 'em to hit the road and they were over 21 by then. My youngest sent me an e-mail recently and thanked me for telling him directly; "You aren't my son, you are His son and I taught you all I could about Him."
posted by
WileyJohn
on May 17, 2010 at 4:02 PM
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WHAT IRRITATES YOU??
IMO, he knows exactly what he's doing. He's attacking "her" through you because you have chosen the "powerless" role. I think you know exactly what must be done . . . then do it and don't look back. Otherwise you remain his "closet" where he hides with his toys, and no skin off her nose. Reality must replace toys at some point. IMO. joab
posted by
joab3
on May 17, 2010 at 12:52 PM
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Re: I dont know how I will ever be able to let someone move in here again
he should know all that by now
posted by
Lanetay
on May 17, 2010 at 9:06 AM
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I dont know how I will ever be able to let someone move in here again
it will be difficult, but not talking about what bothers you is a horrible way to just hold it in. I would sit my kid down and say, hey if you are to stay here those are the rules, you better follow..... no excuses, no two ways about it.
posted by
Tzippy
on May 17, 2010 at 8:50 AM
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Re: I have learned that saying nothing just upsets you...he doesn't even know
I just made a slight comment, but I dont think he heard it
posted by
Lanetay
on May 16, 2010 at 11:26 PM
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I am 66 years old and have never lived a lone, and I was married at 20
posted by
Lanetay
on May 16, 2010 at 11:23 PM
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Re: Lustor
he couldnt stay there, she didnt want him there, and I have the place for him.
posted by
Lanetay
on May 16, 2010 at 11:22 PM
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I dont know if that will ever happen
posted by
Lanetay
on May 16, 2010 at 11:20 PM
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out of sight out of mind
posted by
Lanetay
on May 16, 2010 at 11:20 PM
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No matter the age of the child, once you get the house to yourself it's hard to share it again. My husband and I don't have any kids at home. I hope we never do. I don't think either one of us could adjust to that again. Ya'll need to talk...
posted by
MadelynHoudini
on May 16, 2010 at 9:13 PM
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I have learned that saying nothing just upsets you...he doesn't even know
you are epset...house rules in your home are so important. Is there some way you can talk to him without it becoming a slinging match ...a fight.....he seems very easily upset so you would need to keep calm while telling him you are as mad as a nest of hornets.
posted by
Kabu
on May 16, 2010 at 9:10 PM
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Lustor
I think you just hit a great big 'grown up' button. He left and you saw that life would go on and that he could live somewhere else, especially at his age. He can't be a responsible husband if he runs back home every time his MIL makes him angry, uncomfortable. The behavior he exhibited at your house is not mature. Maybe he needs to grow up and you need your freedom you have already mothered certainly long enough. This is not my business but you put this out there for comment and I like you a lot, I would like to see you be better to yourself.
posted by
Justi
on May 16, 2010 at 8:53 PM
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You know I went for this talk yesterday and the speaker was talking about people who get under your skin. With family there are only two ways to live, either you change or they change and I am still wondering at what he said lustorlove.
posted by
shobana
on May 16, 2010 at 8:12 PM
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I'm thinking! I'm thinking!
Not as much as I used to--My MIL died and my ex- moved to Florida. LOL
posted by
TAPS.
on May 16, 2010 at 7:57 PM
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