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It's easy enough for one to have wishes about what will become
of them after they pass from this world. It is yet a harder thing for those of us who are left behind.
I agree that your mother likely did the only thing she could do to grant your grandmother her wishes while your mother was still able to have some peace.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on April 21, 2010 at 9:02 PM
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Re: Former Student Intern
s Cremation doesn’t hurt the memory of your grandmother at all. I'm trying to remember all you've mentioned about religion in comments on Blogit. BC-A, Bill’s RJLst
posted by
BC-A
on April 18, 2010 at 11:12 PM
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Former Student Intern
s You’ll never know how your grandfather would feel about your grandmother’s cremation and the spreading of her ashes. What’s important’s that your mother and Aunt Sandra came to their decision. It’s now lived with. For myself I prefer burial. I don’t like the symbolism of fire. However God gives us His assurance in the Bible of the Resurrection. In Heaven Can Wait Warren Beatty lost his body in cremation. But the body decomposes ashes to ashes dust to dust anyway. The decomposition of the body and the promise of the Resurrection prove that the body will come together again at the Resurrection. We don’t know when that will be. No one does. But we don’t know the concepts of time and eternity either. I mean the Resurrection might have taken place already in eternity. Certainly this hope is offered to you and your family. BC-A, Bill’s RJLst
posted by
BC-A
on April 18, 2010 at 11:01 PM
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FSI
I think your mother and dad made a good decision and even your grandma would be smiling..
posted by
WileyJohn
on April 18, 2010 at 5:05 PM
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It is a wonderful thought for wanting both the parents to be together even in death FSI. Thank you for sharing this and for your visits.
posted by
shobana
on April 18, 2010 at 1:15 PM
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I think that sort of dilemma touches more people than we realize. In fact I have a cemetary plot awaiting me next to the one of my ex-husband who is now married to a woman whose husband preceded her in death and she has a plot awaiting her next to her first husband. Ex- thinks we should be buried next to each other because of our 30 year marriage and for the sake of our sons. I want to be creamated and ashes sprinkled in the green grass and sunshine beneath a long-leaf pine, but I know that Ex- (who plans to live to 100) will give Sons a very hard time about it. He once told me, "When you're dead, we will do what we wish with your remains." He will probably win out in the end. LOL
posted by
TAPS.
on April 18, 2010 at 8:41 AM
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I think it was handled the best way possible to appease the living and
the dead.
posted by
Ariala
on April 18, 2010 at 7:50 AM
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FSI, There is an entire chapter here aout who your mom is. It should be entitled "Definition of Respectful"...
posted by
dsm_tchr
on April 18, 2010 at 7:46 AM
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I believe your grandmother would understand given the desire of your mother! I really don't believe that she took that much from the ashes to make it a significant difference! I thought it was a good solution for your mother needs to heal and if this is a step then I think it is the right way! I would not say a thing to the paranoid aunt, either. I also like the fact that in her own special way she got the closure she needed. And your dad is just the best to do this with her, too! When my biological father died, having a family plot, his urn was buried in the family plot! So I think whatever it takes that is reasonably and just to help all heal is worthy! sam
posted by
sam444
on April 18, 2010 at 6:58 AM
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