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So many factors in this one! I think it is a case by case basis! sam
posted by
sam444
on April 13, 2010 at 2:12 PM
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I think it would depend on the relationship with the family. Thanks very much for your comment...watch out for some more interesting posts on blogger...will let you know!
posted by
Nita09
on April 13, 2010 at 8:54 AM
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I think during the period of mourning it is hard for the bereaved to appreciate a visit from the clergy but after a spate of time, gradually they will realise that it was a good gesture. Thanks for your visit and comment RR.
posted by
shobana
on April 12, 2010 at 7:55 PM
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I think I would just figure on a visit or at the very least a phonecall. It probably would be better if it could somehow be established for the mourning party to make contact.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on April 12, 2010 at 5:41 PM
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I think that is a nice jester, I was upset at our minister when my mom was dying that he postponed visiting her and she died before he came
posted by
Lanetay
on April 12, 2010 at 3:45 PM
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I believe things have changed too. I personally would appreciate a call
a visit something because I am a Christian and open to all the grief ministery available if God forbid anything should happen to my dear husband or family. I should just telephone you with one word....come.lol
posted by
Kabu
on April 12, 2010 at 1:20 PM
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] It helped the process of grief for me. BC–A, Bill’s RJLst
posted by
BC-A
on April 12, 2010 at 11:07 AM
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What TAPS and Ciel said seems right to me. Prefuneral discussion of
post funeral visit and then a call to double check. Younger people don't do what old people did. Customs change minute to minute around my city and I am amazed at what suddenly becomes the "what we do now" for holidays or celebrations, etc.
To Dad it was important the the clergy visit on Sundays after he could no longer attend services. Now that he is gone, Mom no longer attends their church and that was a surprise. She followed his lead, it seems.
posted by
benzinha
on April 12, 2010 at 11:06 AM
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Re: I agree with TAPS
In these changing and changeable times, no tradition remains unquestioned or at risk of discard. So, each time, I would mention the tradition, perhaps in the prefuneral arranging, and ask. Then double check after the actual funeral... and then call again before visiting.
People don't always know what they will want next week, especially in times of stress and emotional adjustment.
posted by
Ciel
on April 12, 2010 at 10:52 AM
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I agree with TAP
posted by
Ciel
on April 12, 2010 at 10:49 AM
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I'm sure it would be very meaningful to some people. So, in view of that, don't let the few like this one keep you from ministering to the few who would be so appreciative of a visit. I would think that possibly the majority in the middle could take it or leave it.
posted by
TAPS.
on April 12, 2010 at 10:27 AM
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