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Re: A Little Clarification
I would like to first thank you for your clarification on your previous comment. After all, we are all so busy.
Mindy did go the higher-ups. Certainly what you say about her not explaining the rules in front of the residents makes sense, but I believe that she could have easily taken me aside somewhere in the three bedroom house and further elaborated. Also, when the site manager had the meeting she brought up those very issues in front of the guys themselves.
For my next point, I did not question her authority. I did as told. I should also note to that during the "Door Day" as I will call it she immediately offered me dinner. I thanked her for dinner several times and told her how great it was. For her part she did appreciate my kind words. I would also like to think that in the entries here that I would not be seen as a hothead.
Now I did not mention these sorts of things or did not clarify much further. A problem of course with the blogging process is that one cannot make mention of every little detail. To do so would lead to never-ending entries that no one would read. God only knows how many times I have said, "I'll get to that later," or that "That is another story for another time."
As for why I do feel that she does have something against me I have several reasons for believing so. There are just too many instances to where I cannot simply say that it was an accident or a fault. Secondly, I see this sort of behind the back tattling all the time in business. Third, the regular caregiver has gone from being a happy, energetic guy to telling people on the phone that he is hating his job because of her and another caregiver.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on March 31, 2010 at 8:04 PM
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A Little Clarification
She did go to higher-ups, didn't she? But it was not a good idea for her to explain why there is a rule about leaving the door open, in front of the residents, because explaining it would require referring to some X-rated stuff that is probably left to be said -- if necessary -- by professionals, if it has to be said in front of the residents. We don't want to put any ideas into the residents' heads, after all....
I didn't mean to imply that you were actually threatening her -- just -- as you realize -- sort of subconcsiously. You didn't understand why she would tell you to keep the door open and your reaction possibly sort of "threatened" her authority. So, what I was getting at was that you would probably have gotten less resistance and more cooperation from her in oh so many ways, had you not questioned her authority.
People are people. Nobody's perfect. Social grease needs to be applied extra thick sometimes, after it has been a little thin around the edges. Being a part of that community seems important to you, so why not work extra hard at making things go smoothly, rather than worrying about how she might be out to get you?
See what I mean? I think maybe you will see what I mean if you take a step back and look at the bigger picture rather than your hurt feelings. Of course, as always, I mean this as friendly advice, with no rancor or heat under any collars -- which I feel you understand, too.
posted by
WindTapper
on March 31, 2010 at 6:34 PM
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Thank you FSI for stopping by and must tell you that chair is a hot seat now but ok, you can join me.
I'm sorry I have no idea on this debate.
posted by
shobana
on March 30, 2010 at 7:33 PM
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i hope that this has given you a perspective that you would not otherwise
have. It is wonderful that you have a place where you can speak about things at work without interrupting the work.
I am happy to see that going on. I didnt read the original post so i wont comment on what i think, As far as I am conerned, your job is the most important thing, and you have to do everything to protect your reputation and your good will. everything else does not matter. She does not matter. what she does is not something you can control, but you can control your behavior and your reaction, usually, when you change a bit others must adjust whether they like or not.
posted by
Tzippy
on March 29, 2010 at 9:40 AM
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Good for you.......
I was hoping you'd give us some input as to your reaction......
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on March 29, 2010 at 9:15 AM
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Kudos to you! I think this was a very appropriate response and you handled it rather well. sam
posted by
sam444
on March 29, 2010 at 8:17 AM
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