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Re: Lustor
I know I cant personally help him but I wish he would get profressional help, I know he thought he could do it when he was with my daughter but he didnt want to bad enough. Instead he turned on her, she did a lot help but it wasnt enough
posted by
Lanetay
on March 12, 2010 at 8:27 AM
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Lustor
Sweetheart your desire to help is normal if such a word should ever be used, for caring and loving people. Also there are ways to help and there are ways that to us seem loving but are not the ways. Addiction is a long road even after they have reached the bottom, get help and begin the trek back up they still have certain habits that are not what you see them to be: they lie, pretend, escape on and on and on while they are still trying to make a come back. Thankfully many do make a comeback, real comeback. Don't try to help him, let him go to professional or those who work daily in a life long self help program. Even those who have trained as out reach counselors who have studied under professionals can be of great help and guidance. AA and NA groups can be wonderful, as in all things some are better than others. You are not dealing with the core person.
posted by
Justi
on March 11, 2010 at 11:26 PM
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maybe he has hit rock bottom
posted by
Lanetay
on March 11, 2010 at 10:17 PM
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There IS always hope Lustor... but unfortunately , when it comes to addiction, only when the addict hits rock bottom can he start his way up , out of his predicament. If I were you I( would pray for him and make sure that I am in no way enabling his problem. SOmetimes when one feels sorry for them one tends to try to help them by giving comforts to them. That only prolongs their misery. They need to face what they are and only then can they step out of the hole they are in. Its easier said than done though. Tough love is not pretty and it hurts. Good luck to you and your daughter my friend and to that poor guy ...may G=d help him.
posted by
Sinome
on March 11, 2010 at 7:40 PM
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there is always hope
posted by
Lanetay
on March 11, 2010 at 5:27 PM
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I don't hold much hope out for him being saved either.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on March 11, 2010 at 4:19 PM
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yes and I know I cant
posted by
Lanetay
on March 11, 2010 at 3:43 PM
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Re: It is difficult to see another human being destroy himself
yes its sad to see someone go threw bad things when there is no reason to
posted by
Lanetay
on March 11, 2010 at 3:43 PM
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How unfortunate that is for him. He definitely should be in a rehab. It's the compassion in you that wants to help him.
Thanks sweetie for stopping by my blog.
posted by
shobana
on March 11, 2010 at 3:02 PM
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It is difficult to see another human being destroy himself
even if that person has hurt you before. But that is the power of love, allowing others to go through their painful journey until they learn the lesson and change their ways. I have had to let my kids do that, I can not tell you how difficult it was, but in the end they did learn from it. And sometimes they didnt. However, the pain is there for a reason
posted by
Tzippy
on March 11, 2010 at 11:38 AM
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yes I know and I have probably had a harder time then my daughter in some ways
posted by
Lanetay
on March 11, 2010 at 8:07 AM
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No one wants to see a young person through their life in the gutter! You are a compassionate person and it shows! He is one who needs to decide what will become of himself! I think it is commendable but you need to let this 'bad egg' go until he seeks the necessary treatment to change his life into to purposeful and productive! sam
posted by
sam444
on March 11, 2010 at 7:45 AM
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