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Re: TAPS
it is true that everyone has good reasons for responding to life in their seemingly peculiar, illogical ways. To some part of them, these reasons are reasonable, and balanced wth all they believe to be true and real. For this reason, it is easier to forgive, even when one can't do more than that.
Compassion is also easier when one gets it that to be compassionate does not mean having to fix things, or have answers. Sometimes it just means caring enough to notice things, and to forgive. Maybe to listen.
I saw something mentioned clinically called Compassion Fatigue... suffered by those dealing with those dealing with suffering.
posted by
Ciel
on February 11, 2010 at 11:21 AM
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Re: There is so much pain here on blogit and healing is slow and
Truth is, you are blessed, and so am I in very many ways that so many others are not. It does seem sometimes wrong to complain at all, considering that. But... we have to do what we can to heal.
Another truth is that people who don't know, can't teach. The stepmom who raised me had the deck so stacked against her in that regard... Her childhood, I came to know only a few years ago, was worse than mine... and she has lived with this disorder undiagnosed her entire adult life. It has cost her so dear! She did better with me... I did better with my kids... My granddaughter and step-grandsons reap the benefits of learning out of pain.
That is the greatest blessing of all, to see.
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Ciel
on February 11, 2010 at 11:15 AM
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What a commanding post. How vulnerable are human beings, how impossible to undo the wounding. I appreciate that information from the medicinenet.com article. Knowing those things brings a bit of understanding to why some people respond like they do, and should multiply compassion, and forgiveness if needed. I wish....
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TAPS.
on February 11, 2010 at 10:13 AM
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There is so much pain here on blogit and healing is slow and
yes, sometimes one reads of anothers pain and feels I must be grateful I haven't lived that.You will find that there is much love and empathy here though, where others have experienced the same. Deeper understanding and less Oh I know how you feel. No one can know how you feel and I agree sometimes the old depression just hits. Two days ago my mind saw a face I hoped never to conjure up again. I am so blessed for I flew To Wiley to share with him, and yes beat down the depression with my medication before it could take hold. My heart goes out to you dear one, you deserve to live life to the full, to dance in the streets and laugh till you cry. This is your life No one should have taken it from you like this.
posted by
Kabu
on February 10, 2010 at 3:29 PM
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Re: I feel for you
Yes, sometimes a keyboard gets us where we need to be on some levels without taking too many hits on others.
posted by
Ciel
on February 10, 2010 at 2:50 PM
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I feel for you
I have had childhood traumas as well. I've been through a lot of rage and hate.
Spirituality and my medication seem to help...but just like you, I do not always feel well.
I don't like to interact with people much at all. It
is so much easier behind a keyboard though.
posted by
Afzal_Sunny7
on February 10, 2010 at 2:47 PM
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