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Mariposa, I understand that the dislike expressed of some of your conduct
would bother you. After all, we are human. But remember that you are lucky to have this beautiful relationship with your son, where he can bring himself to tell you and you can listen to what he and his wife really feel. It's rare that people express. The relationships simply just turn sour and violent. So in your context, there is hope in all this, mariposa
posted by
Straightforward
on January 24, 2010 at 7:07 PM
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Just checking in to see how you are doing today. God bless you.
posted by
Justi
on January 24, 2010 at 6:55 PM
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Re: Sam
You are right about it never being just one person. I think we both have been wrong and I hope I will do the right thing to help resolve the situation.
posted by
mariposa75
on January 24, 2010 at 1:34 PM
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Re: FSI
I think it will get resolved eventually. Hopefully sooner than later.
posted by
mariposa75
on January 24, 2010 at 1:33 PM
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Re: BC-A
Thank you, I'm sure it will.
posted by
mariposa75
on January 24, 2010 at 1:32 PM
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Re: WileyJohn
Thank you for your wise words. It is true that only God can judge the real me. Right now I'm not sure who that is.
posted by
mariposa75
on January 24, 2010 at 1:32 PM
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Re: Troosha
Thank you for your advice. There are areas I need to change, and some are in my basic personality (flaws) and I have been like that since I was a child. But I need to try to change what I can.
posted by
mariposa75
on January 24, 2010 at 1:31 PM
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Re: Tzippy
I am asking God to help me forgive her. I want it to work in my heart more before I try to talk with her. I am afraid to write a letter (easier for me to communicate how I feel...) because she may not take it the way I want it to be. So, I am waiting and praying for the right time and what I should do.
posted by
mariposa75
on January 24, 2010 at 1:29 PM
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Mariposa75
"Be calm, be true, be quiet. Do not get emotionally upset by anything that happens around you. Feel a deep, inner security in the goodness and purpose in the universe. Be true to your highest ideals. Do not let yourself slip back into the old ways of reacting. Stick to your spiritual guns. Be calm always and in all ways. Do not talk back or defend yourself too much against accusation, whether false or true. Accept abuse as well as you accept praise. Only God can judge the real you."
posted by
WileyJohn
on January 24, 2010 at 8:52 AM
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Mariposa
It's never easy to hear or digest that someone has been hurt by us and perhaps that hurt has turned into disliking us. Though we cannot be liked by everyone it is important to find peace with those that are near to us. It takes time. Sometimes we simply have to change our actions and carefully choose our words and eventually the hurt (on both sides) will dissipate. But as you said in your post, bitterness serves no purpose. Good luck with the fence mending but do remember there is no quick fix.
posted by
Troosha
on January 24, 2010 at 8:17 AM
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JKL Let’s hope and pray that the words will work out as well as the work in your basement love. BC-A, Bill’s Roost
posted by
BC-A
on January 23, 2010 at 9:52 PM
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Mariposa, I was just attacked by a woman monster, she hurt me terribly
financially and personally it hurt like hell. I was angry and scared and hurt and all those emotions you go through when someone does something to hurt you. What has saved me was I asked god to help me forgive her. At first I thought God couldnt do that for me, but in the end, he did do that. I am still prayer for peace of mind, but the only way is to forgive her for what she did, she cant help the way she is, and when you forgive you receive the peace you are looking for. I am still going to destroy her legally, it is my duty to defend myself, but I now do it with my head and not with anger and emotional chaos, and I am finally begining to feel the power of forgiveness. You can too :)
posted by
Tzippy
on January 23, 2010 at 9:43 PM
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Re: Kabu
Thank you for your concern and prayers. I am going to pray this through and do whatever is necessary on my part for there to be healing.
posted by
mariposa75
on January 23, 2010 at 7:09 PM
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Re: Justi
Thank you for your words of life. I feel much better tonight and am going to do what you said.
posted by
mariposa75
on January 23, 2010 at 7:06 PM
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I am certain that you will be able to resolve everything and move on accordingly. Very tough it can be to write when one is frustrated.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on January 23, 2010 at 3:57 PM
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It is a difficult situation but it is never just one person. God will lead and protect you! sam
posted by
sam444
on January 23, 2010 at 3:43 PM
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My heart goes out to you and you have my prayers too.I am glad the young
people are making their own way.....there is more chance of healing.
OK you said that you are sorry and asked forgiveness and turned this over to God and he can work wonders..................well now go and look yourself in the mirror and remember that you have spent your life in service to God and his children and you are a good person, a really lovable and good person.
You are the parent and children should honour their parents unless they are evil and then it's OK to walk away. The other side of this story is a jealous little girl desperate to separate her new husband from his Mama and will find fault no matter what. You and God have a big job ahead of you here. I will pray for you.
posted by
Kabu
on January 23, 2010 at 2:19 PM
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Maripose
I am so sorry this has happened in your family. Families tend to be able to hurt one another deeply without any plan to do so. Pray for your daughter-in-law, give her and your son over to the Lord asking him to forgive them, put his love in this issue to soften it and repair all this hurt and bitterness. You know hurt can turn to a root of bitterness and be a heart breaker for life. You have to totally forgive them to release the hurt that has come upon you. You need only ask Jesus to forgive you and he will totally. This will be overcome. God can make it as if it did not happen. Bless you. I am going to pray for you now.
posted by
Justi
on January 23, 2010 at 1:41 PM
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