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My husband isn't into travel and I am not into fencing...
so he goes his way and I go mine. But solo travel has its advantages--no waiting for someone else to be read... no having to negotiate where to go, what to see... eating when and where you like... having the freedom to follow an impulse... The freedom to share a piece of the road for a while, then go separate ways. If you are going to travel with someone, it really has to be someone you like, enjoy spending time with--my son is great fun to travel with, and I have had great times with my daughter a-far. Yet, I have also traveled mad for miles and miles with the wrong company.
posted by
Ciel
on August 25, 2009 at 4:46 PM
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I was very intrigued by that post, particularly about what you say regarding commitment and future. Right now, in my little community where I spend the summer in Turkey (all neigbours being English, sadly) I see nothing but martial misery around me and these people are not youngsters. I´m somewhat in the middle as I´m single and have every intention of remaining so. We tend to take trips together, but I don´t want to go anymore, gldly using my writing ablogations as an excuse. Why don´t I want to go? becuase everything we set out to see get´s not ntoiced at all, all I hear ass day long is bickering or else, one part of the couples or the other snagging my sleeve, pulling me aside and unlaoding. I can only take so much misery and, of cours, I can´t say a word, comment or express my opinon because I can´t take sides. So, based on the experience: I am blissfully single.
posted by
vogue
on August 25, 2009 at 7:00 AM
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Re: We'll have been married
Malcolm, that's pretty great--means your wife is the luckiest woman in England, too!
posted by
Ciel
on August 24, 2009 at 2:04 AM
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We'll have been married
for 21 years in September and I still consider myself to be the luckiest man in England, but we did both consider all aspects of marriage beforehand and I think that's what's missing today.
posted by
malcolm
on August 23, 2009 at 12:20 PM
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ReTroosha,
That's a good point--that many marriages happen too young, too much about impulse and not with much of an eye on the future or any kind of plan or even intent for it.
posted by
Ciel
on August 22, 2009 at 9:59 AM
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Ciel
For me (I married a couple of years ago) it meant receiving a blessing from God and proclaiming in front of our children the depth and conviction of our love for one another. It was like standing up and saying “This is it, you are the one, and I’m not going anywhere for the rest of my life”. For me, this was huge. I do, however, question why some young people get married. I think in some instances they get caught up in the party – that one day – versus the idea of marriage itself.
posted by
Troosha
on August 22, 2009 at 8:34 AM
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