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Firstly my sincere thanks for your help and yes I am muddling through nicely thanks to you! As for your new friendly neighbour it is unfortunate that some people assume this is so; you should gently guide her to the help sectors and point out that you are actually working - she may or may not get the hint! Thanks again my friend; many blessings
posted by
mariaki
on May 21, 2009 at 3:28 AM
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Vogue
My friends and acquaintances know that I have my office at home, accept that and generally conduct themselves accordingly. If you tell this lady that you work at home, she'll probably get the message. If not, you can always go to plan B - 'Sorry, I have no time'...
posted by
Nautikos
on May 20, 2009 at 6:21 PM
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And I was about to ask you to come over and....
help me set up a website. lol Vogue, It really is sad that some folks are unaware that a good turn is not an invitation to take advantage of one's goodness. However the lady reacts is something that you can't control but your time is valuable and your work is important. Sometimes the answer has to be NO! You are a very kind-hearted and caring person but you also have to be firm and unrelenting.
posted by
Texas_Gem
on May 20, 2009 at 2:01 PM
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I understand completely
There are people who are constantly on the look out for a 'friend' who will do everything for them. I had a friend who is an only child and incredibly selfish but wealthy. Now you find yourself feeling sorry for her, and trying to assist her. She ends up taking heaps of your time and for no good reason. She uses people in other words for her own gain.
I know that I can't afford such friends in my life any more and I do screen all my calls. Instead of being grateful they leach on even deeper and suck for dear life.........
posted by
Norwood
on May 20, 2009 at 1:56 PM
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I have a very close girlfriend who'd screen her calls. Whenever a particular number would come up on Caller ID, she'd say, "oh no...it's my stalker." We'd both laugh, but there are just some people who take the smallest gesture of good will and turn it into BFF (Best Friends Forever). I tend to be rather independent and all of my best buddies are like me; we all have a very tough time with "needy" people! Sometimes, you just have to be cruel. Mal
posted by
gapcohen
on May 20, 2009 at 12:59 PM
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Very wisely said...
posted by
Kayzzaman
on May 20, 2009 at 11:08 AM
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Very wisely said...
posted by
Kayzzaman
on May 20, 2009 at 11:08 AM
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I know exactly what you mean sweetie... I find in my own life others have no respect for my time and since I "do not work" I can be also constantly called upon to run errands and make phone calls that they that "work" have no time for. My writing suffers and inspiration, that as you know is at best fleeting, has many a times been lost to making a Dr.'s appointment for someone that could very well had dialed the phone themselves in the time it took them to dial mine and ask me to do it :-) But I can't say "no"... its a sickness I know, but I find myself saying "sure" and "no problem" time and again... I tell you I understand why is it that most famous writers are seen as selfish individuals that were loners and lived in the fringe of society. Either that or they drank! Probably to escape the others that drove them crazy loll which I can also understand at times loll. Just tell her "no" with a smile and hope for the best ... Good luck with that xoxoxo
posted by
Sinome
on May 20, 2009 at 9:44 AM
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If you set your boundaries now, it will be easier later.
posted by
mariposa75
on May 20, 2009 at 8:41 AM
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