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I would have liked the option of staying home but i didn't have one. Needless to say, however, my kids were raised with loving caregivers in addition to me and they grew up as two fabulous adults, now with children of their own. I think if children are loved and cared for, they can thrive in a variety of environments. Do I sometimes wish I could have been home with them - you betcha. But I didn't have that option, so I did the best I could, as I belief most have. I honestly feel that there are a bizillian ways to raise kids and for some very odd reason, most of them turn out okay. :) I try not to judge anybody on this particular choice. It is very personal. I also must say, raising my kids was not without trials. I had tons. Thanks for a very honest and interesting post.
posted by
BetsyLewis
on January 20, 2009 at 6:03 PM
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Sorry I meant to say in my cluding statement
what happens to the child/ren if all their emotional eggs are in the one basket and something happens to the mother??
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Norwood
on January 19, 2009 at 2:06 PM
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Hi My post was in no way intended to be critical of stay at home mums
even pitying. I just think it is interesting that many will criticise those Mums who choose to work or are forced to work and others will go the other way.However I do feel it is more natural for mothers to have others develop a relationship with children for the socialisation aspect of their development in society. Part of the problems inherent in today's society is that some people do not know how to nurture their kids properly. Even if I had a husband with a good wage and able to support me in comfort with a child or children I would have worked or done charity volunteer work or something. It is healthy. I don't think it is healthy to have children so dependent on a mother for all their emotional needs. I think they need a relationship with relatives, a dad or uncle or whoever.
What happens to that child if all his or her emotional eggs are in the one basket??
posted by
Norwood
on January 19, 2009 at 2:04 PM
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Very interesting post. I was a stay at home mom for my four sons who were very close together in age. I loved it and am very thankful for the opportunity to do so. I went back to work when they got through grade school. During their grade school years, I spent most of my time as a volunteer teacher's aide and librarian for the school and after school activities leader. I loved working with children.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 19, 2009 at 1:39 PM
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I would liked to have stayed at home when my children were young but I was the bread winner! My how times can change for some! sam
posted by
sam444
on January 19, 2009 at 1:17 PM
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I have been on both sides of this coin
I will defend the stay at home mother who makes the "choice" to do so. I wanted to be home with my daughter, I loved being a stay at home mom and I loved those years with her. It was never my intent to stay at home for her entire childhood and I didn't. But I have a relationship with her that nobody else has. She will tell me things that she won't tell anyone else even at the age of 14 and a half. Given I am not her biological mother and I have divorced her father this year and just moved across the country, it is still me she calls at the end of her school day to tell me how her day went.
I didn't want or need anyone pitying me for that choice what I wished for at that time was someone who understood, that I LOVED every minute of that time. I wasn't sacrificing, I made a choice. When she was in school full time, I was able to persue whatever I wanted. I don't see anything wrong with giving your child a few short years of your time and attention.
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Bel_
on January 19, 2009 at 7:48 AM
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