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Re: Re: I stick to teaching them Love
For me, love is unconditional and unlimited, allowing us to not merely relate, but empathize with people wherever they came from and wherever they are going to. Through love we realize that people are just people. Through love, we delight in their talents and help them when in need.
Respect, on the other hand, need not be given to everyone. Those in power usually deserve disrespect and I feel not the least reservation in showing it. Nor do I feel my children should be at all sparing in their criticism of elected officials.
With regards to EQ, my experience with its promulgators has been entirely negative. The interaction typically is one where the EQ snob assumes that I have an IQ -- I never found out my score -- and concludes that I must therefore have a low EQ. Then the EQ snob preens him or herself and says they have a high EQ and therefore superior -- by virtue of being more likely to succeed.
However, the EQ measure seems to basically estimate one's predilection for polite backstabbing. Though I will concede that this may bring a success of sorts, it is a success I want no part of, not for myself nor for my children.
Give me, instead, the self-deprecating humor and awful puns of the egghead over the insufferable EQ-er. There is a difference also between love and finding someone's company enjoyable. Loving the insufferable is harder than loving your enemies.
You do not seem to be cut from the EQ-cloth. Perhaps you are a closet egghead.
I will now step down from my soapbox.
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cpklapper
on December 4, 2008 at 9:09 PM
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Re: I stick to teaching them Love
Well that's the thing about love, sometimes you don't have to love people, but you still have to treat them with respect. (like I can't love dishonest public officials, but I can't disrespect them either, since they're in office for the simple reason that there are actually people who believe in them.) And I really don't think EQ is about manipulating people or anything negative like that. EQ is actually being able to RELATE to different people who come from different walks of life. I don't have children of my own but I believe I've been raised to treat anyone, even if they're outside of my race or social status, with the same respect I would like to be given.
posted by
serraisima
on December 4, 2008 at 4:47 PM
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I stick to teaching them Love
EQ strikes me as a measure of your Dale Carnegie-ness, "How To Win Allies and Manipulate People"... I mean "How to Win Friends and Influence People".
My children seem to be loving and also brilliant. I like to flatter myself that I had some small role in that.
Carl Peter
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cpklapper
on December 4, 2008 at 1:41 PM
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True. I could never stomach people who think they're above everyone else just because they have money. It's brainless, don't you think? ;p
posted by
serraisima
on December 4, 2008 at 4:45 AM
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The smartest people being the dumbest, not to mention heartless, is so true. I got so irked by this girl, who comes from my own alma mater, posting this novel of a blog entry about how the immersion with the Aetas is one of the worst things she's ever done, calling them names and all that. "I asked my yaya to disinfect my phone..." ARGH!
Could you believe there are people like this? It's more than sad, it's... Disgusting.
I'm sure you're a great mom! It'll be years before I even become one, but I hope to be able to raise them the way I intend to. :D
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serraisima
on December 4, 2008 at 4:43 AM
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I sure hope so, Sam! I shall try, but that would be a long time from now. :D
posted by
serraisima
on December 4, 2008 at 4:40 AM
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I like your mind set on this one! I think you will do a fine job of raising your children! sam
posted by
sam444
on December 3, 2008 at 9:16 PM
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sweetheart, sometimes the smartest people can be the dumbest and most heartless for thinking way above everyone...while the less fortunate to have the widest understanding due to financial incapacity and social status are most likely to have the kindest consideration and the biggest heart which makes them smarter to many. Aeta's by the way are our primitive ancestors who build and cultivated most part of our land when no one yet bothered to not to mention "The rice Terraces" which is known to be 1 of the 8 wonders of the world...which is the product of their blood and sweat. I feel for them being helpless on the streets whenever I see one/some, they should have been treated with more respect. This however my love is purely personal opinion. And you're on the right track to raise your children with utmost consideration to others dear...as I do to mine.
posted by
__Purple_Mermaid11__
on December 3, 2008 at 9:07 PM
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Excellent, after all we do need to be a little kinder to each other.
posted by
yellowrose55
on December 3, 2008 at 7:05 PM
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