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The why of it all
Normally someone who is willing to take the time and effort to take to vex another in this manner has some of issues of their own to deal with. This is where your ammunition is. figure out why this person has focused on you, why are you so important in their existance. Then you confront them, not from a place of anger or frustration, but from a strong, factual and fortified place they can not hide from... This is what I do...
posted by
PoetUndone
on September 30, 2008 at 9:18 PM
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tell'em something so positive just enough to shake'm and wonder......you
will be fine....
posted by
Star5_
on September 29, 2008 at 12:19 AM
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wow, you got a lot of good comments,
When someone makes a dig at you, i tend to think it is to take the attention away from themselves by trying to make you look bad, they are insecure. So i take the ball and run with it, or just fumble and have fun with it, when they see it doesn't bother you they will stop and it is a good exercise for thinking on your feet.
posted by
jeansaw
on September 28, 2008 at 4:41 PM
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i fine this works.......
when someone is diggin at u which leads to your own frustration focus on be really super nice to them. its hard but in the end they stop diggin coz ur just so lovely.
posted by
duracell
on September 27, 2008 at 2:25 AM
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Stay away from the group if you can. They aren't worth your effort.
posted by
vogue
on September 24, 2008 at 9:22 AM
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this just recently happened to me and i took the person aside from the group (informing them the next time that i wouldn't) and called her on all of the little snips she had made at my expense. we haven't talked since and neither has she. don't let it go on - it will fester and take on more importance than it deserves.
posted by
ladychardonnay
on September 22, 2008 at 8:52 AM
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posted by
Star5_
on September 22, 2008 at 8:49 AM
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It's more of a personality thing. Some people have it in their dispositon while others address it. Then there those (like me) that seethe. Personally I like the first two approaches and wish I could adopt one of them.
posted by
FormerStudentIntern
on September 17, 2008 at 10:22 AM
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Answer the person in your conversation in a way that will intimidate her/him ~ Blog on! BCA, Bill’s Wave
posted by
BC-A
on September 16, 2008 at 7:22 PM
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blow it off unless it's really really bugging you, in which case address it
posted by
mejustme
on September 16, 2008 at 11:42 AM
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let it go-
They are not worthy of your energy and their bad thoughts will rebound on them anyway.
posted by
Uistlady
on September 16, 2008 at 2:44 AM
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I take it silently and wait for the right time to answer be they any group.
posted by
afzal50
on September 13, 2008 at 4:23 PM
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