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callista
No he didnt come, she came to visit friends here and then he came to viist her without my daughter, but then my daughter met her, I am not sure about how they know a husband exist. He is suppose to be home by now, but I havent heard from her
posted by
Lanetay
on August 14, 2008 at 8:51 PM
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just curious,
when this girl came to visit did she bring this husband with her, how can you be sure there is a husband?
posted by
jeansaw
on August 14, 2008 at 8:39 PM
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MississippiRebel
you are so right
posted by
Lanetay
on August 12, 2008 at 6:34 PM
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This seems odd 2 me. had I met the opposite sex online and then invited them to my home, and covered the bill as well.... I think it would cause a little ruffle in the undie drawer.
posted by
MississippiRebel
on August 12, 2008 at 6:11 PM
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Sinome
good avise that is why I didnt want to say anything when she asked, he is the one that left, and he had met the woman before
posted by
Lanetay
on August 12, 2008 at 5:29 PM
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Lustor... First, please allow me to say that your daughter, being an adult, is the one who has to judge and deal with this situation and if I were you, I would not touch it with a ten foot pole, for no matter how it comes out at the end , anything that goes wrong will be blamed on your "wrong" advice, no matter how wise and caring your words to her are. Having said that, a friendship between a man and a woman is possible and it does exist, but it just sounds to me a little weird that this other woman would spend money to send tickets ( I did understand she sent two, right? ) for your daughter and husband to visit. Maybe they are into swinging or swapping...who knows... or maybe they are just nice folks , lonely and searching for good friends. There is no way of knowing for sure so I guess you have to trust your upbringing of her and hope everything turns out OK. Just make sure you know where they are going and get addresses and phone numbers, there are just too many weirdos out there and you want to know where they are at all times. My friend, it is the hardest thing to stand aside and allow our kids to make their own mistakes, but you got to do it if you are to keep their respect. Good luck my friend.
posted by
Sinome
on August 12, 2008 at 3:39 PM
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Harderup
very good response, that is what he tells her at least he isnt hidding the fact she is a friend, but to me seeing each other with her paying for this airplane ticket is way of the line for firends
posted by
Lanetay
on August 12, 2008 at 12:37 PM
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Maybe they are just friends...
Think about it. There must be a reason for him to be playing an online game instead of facing the real world. Maybe he is ashamed towards your daughter for not being successful and he hide in the cyber-world where he is strong, tough and popular.
In this game he found an equal who happened to be a woman. If they are meeting with their spouses I still think you should give him the benefit of the doubt. If he would hide and lie and cover up, then you should be suspective.
What if she found a really good friend here on Blogit and it happened to be of the opposit gender? If you share the same passion for writing and respect each others oppinions. If your spouse couldn't care less about poetry but think it is OK that you spend your time here. Would it be so wrong to meet that friend in real life?
But ofc he should be looking for a job. I think she needs to find out WHY he is playing and not with whom.
(sorry for the long post)
posted by
Lotus_Flower
on August 12, 2008 at 8:59 AM
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ash_pradhan
she met the woma, but hasnt been involved with anything they do, she is working and he is not, not a good set up, they have been married going on 8 years
thank goodness no children
posted by
Lanetay
on August 12, 2008 at 7:03 AM
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In my experience & opinion, the only way people in committed / exclusive..
relationships can enjoy without fear or breach of trust cross-gender friendships is when all four of them can socialize together..any other way is bound to cause trouble..this is one of the issues that needs to be discussed and mutually agreed upon before entering into a committed relationship, which many people seem to take too lightly in today's open society!
posted by
ash_pradhan
on August 12, 2008 at 6:51 AM
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ZenMom
I just dont get it either
posted by
Lanetay
on August 12, 2008 at 6:38 AM
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Sure sounds "fishy" to me. I agree w/ you..........he should be looking for a job.
posted by
ZenMom
on August 12, 2008 at 5:07 AM
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Kayzzaman
it hurts me he is doing this to her
posted by
Lanetay
on August 11, 2008 at 10:11 PM
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Thanks for sharing this experience...
posted by
Kayzzaman
on August 11, 2008 at 10:09 PM
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__Purple_Mermaid11
guess my daughter wanted to show her husband she can trust him, but he should be working
posted by
Lanetay
on August 11, 2008 at 10:00 PM
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"There are" I meant dear...sori typo...
posted by
__Purple_Mermaid11__
on August 11, 2008 at 9:46 PM
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there's a 101 reasons/excuses to justify what they both are doing/having with each other dear...we can only be outsiders looking in and we can be bias or unfair to dig in or elaborate from where we're standing. But there is only 'one' reason they should observe restrictions; "their respective marriages".. We can never question anyone's friendship or intent, unless proven otherwise dear...
posted by
__Purple_Mermaid11__
on August 11, 2008 at 9:45 PM
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