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Re: Bel
Naut,
Not taken in the wrong way at all. It has crossed my mind more than once that I should have just issued orders and all would have been fine. Live and learn I guess.
posted by
Bel_
on August 3, 2008 at 5:16 PM
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Bel
Something just occurred to me when I was reading this - and I don't want you to take this the wrong way - being a soldier was perfect for Carl. He could be a
man, show dedication to duty and his courage, face death unflinchingly,
and not have to worry about life!
I think that's the kind of guy he is...
posted by
Nautikos
on August 3, 2008 at 5:14 PM
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Re: Funny isn't how we start off saying we are not upset or angry
Azur,
I have always found self pity to be a waste of time and I think in some way I tend to put anger in that same catagory. Of course, allowing myself to get angry about the situation also means not being to impressed with myself either for accepting these things for so long. Kind of a catch 22 in that LOL!
posted by
Bel_
on August 3, 2008 at 4:34 PM
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Funny isn't how we start off saying we are not upset or angry
I used to have a doctor who had a way of opening the floodgate. After those sessions she'd say would you like to slip out the back door today? I had several friends that i would compare notes with, did you leave the doctor by the front door or the back door?
posted by
Azur
on August 3, 2008 at 4:29 PM
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Re: Bel.......
Corbin,
I could never punch you! Though the idea of torturing the telemarketer.......... LOL!
posted by
Bel_
on August 3, 2008 at 4:13 PM
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Bel.......
I wish I was up there......to let you punch me!
Hell, yes it's good for you to get mad, and scream like hell! Bottling it up inside brings on all kinds of physical conditions by weakening you.
Take it out on a telemarketer......but take it out!
posted by
Corbin_Dallas
on August 3, 2008 at 4:05 PM
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Re: Re: Bel_
posted by
jacentaOld
on August 3, 2008 at 3:18 PM
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Re: Bel_
Jacenta,
I am very lucky to have friends that aren't afraid to be honest with me and vise versa. Can't say I always like it when they call me on things I don't want to deal with, but they sure make sure I get myself past all the garbage.
posted by
Bel_
on August 3, 2008 at 3:07 PM
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Bel_
Sometimes a catharsis or purging of the emotions is just what is needed. We need to release anger for letting it bottle up within only causes more problems in the end. I hope you are feeling better now, Bel. I am glad you have such a smart, good friend.
posted by
jacentaOld
on August 3, 2008 at 3:05 PM
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Re: Lustorlove
I don't know that my anger will make things better for others, but the truth is I have held in for too long because I didn't want all the anger between us. The marriage is over, the divorce is in process but he is still Pam's father. For her sake, I just don't want to carry a lot of anger and resentment toward him. I did need to release some of it, I did need to admit I was feeling it.
posted by
Bel_
on August 3, 2008 at 2:38 PM
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my daughter who is 22 always tells me why get upset about something you cant change, my answer to make things better for others
posted by
Lanetay
on August 3, 2008 at 2:34 PM
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Re: being angry...
Ciel,
Very, very true. I tell that to my clients often....unfortunately sometimes it's easier to give the advice than it is for me to take it.
posted by
Bel_
on August 3, 2008 at 1:46 PM
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being angry...
that is a form of running energy, like hot water, to clear the pipes. Very useful, doesn't have to be thrown at anyone, doesn't have to be used as a weapon. In fact, anger in its clearest, cleanest form is a great healer!
posted by
Ciel
on August 3, 2008 at 1:38 PM
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