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Thanks mysteria,

You are right.

I am working to build a business, so I don't ever half to.

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on July 10, 2008 at 7:49 PM | link to this | reply

I think it will remind you TOO much of the stress you endured

and even if you consciously try and fight it your subconscious will be very wary of exposing you to the same trauma source, which can cause things like agorophobia to take rise in my case.

I hope you don't ever have to go back to work again. I am sorry you had to go through that.

posted by mysteria on July 10, 2008 at 2:25 AM | link to this | reply

Living_Life_Large

Words well spoken!

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on July 9, 2008 at 12:14 PM | link to this | reply

Rumored, thanks

I'm still fighting with whether or not I want to reply at all. If only avoiding her was easy, I'd have no problem.

I think that some towns are just TOO small. No matter how large they seem. InsertEmoticon

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on July 9, 2008 at 12:05 PM | link to this | reply

To thine own self be true.

posted by Living_Life_Large on July 7, 2008 at 3:49 PM | link to this | reply

Sunny, you don't need the stress this lady would obviously inflict on you

be kind in your reply (I know you would be), but firm..

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posted by Rumor on July 7, 2008 at 3:06 PM | link to this | reply

Jen,

I know this would be the best way.
Thanks for stopping by!

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on July 4, 2008 at 4:44 PM | link to this | reply

sweetheart, if she could speak highly of her religion and speak so ill of the others, how much more pain can she inflict in you in the future if you dont get away from her this instant? Ariala and Afzal are right...an email would do to gently turn down her invitation my dear.

posted by __Purple_Mermaid11__ on July 3, 2008 at 10:01 PM | link to this | reply

Moon...thank you.

I know it is the best advice. I'm hoping when she understands what I am, she will want to stay away from me.

Part of the problem that allowed me to be so traumatized, is my inability to say "no".

I could not say, "no, I won't stay over or work an extra shift." Or say "no, I won't also fit in the work of these two or three kids because it's easier to just make me do it then to ask them to do their own work, because they won't anyway."
"No, I can not work any faster, regardless of how loud you yell."

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on July 3, 2008 at 9:30 PM | link to this | reply

...stay away from her...don't see her...my humble opinion...moon

posted by magic_moon on July 3, 2008 at 9:10 PM | link to this | reply

Afzal

Thank you sweetheart.

It is not as much the religious things that I am afraid of. If she knows and will still want to see me, I can probably deal with that...

It's the work related issues that puts the deepest darkest fear into me.

Since I quit that job, when I was pregnant with Matt...I haven't even been INTO a Burger King except for her son's birthdays, and a going away party for another employee.
And I have done none of those things for two years at least.

I can't even look at a Burger King without being afraid. My spirit is burned so badly from this place ... and everyone always tries to convince me about the grass being greener someplace else... but no one really understands.

posted by Afzal_Sunny7 on July 3, 2008 at 9:07 PM | link to this | reply

I think Ariala is right . You need to keep away from anyone who puts you

under stress because of their belief and attitude . You are so wise in thinking that God has created everyone and we all need to respect each other unless there is something propagated in any religion which hurts others . God bless you !

posted by afzal50 on July 3, 2008 at 8:06 PM | link to this | reply