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callista22001
yes I know but there are a lot of degrading men out there
posted by
Lanetay
on April 18, 2008 at 6:13 PM
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I really believe that you should get to know a person before jumping into
bed with them. And just because you may be older doesn't mean you can't get a std, even if you think you are being careful. If someone is pressuring me into something that is when i back away and run as fast as i can.
One night stands are degrading. And for a man to dishonor a woman that way is unforgivable.
posted by
callista22001
on April 18, 2008 at 3:58 PM
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Kabu
Love is hard to find, being alone can be painfull
posted by
Lanetay
on April 14, 2008 at 8:39 PM
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before my present most special love of my life, I would have been better to
have spent some years just enjoying adult company. There would have been a lot less pain I know that for sure.
posted by
Kabu
on April 14, 2008 at 8:15 PM
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sam444
yes but the mind isnt always the best
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 9:15 PM
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Re: lustor, just be single like I am! LOL
dont need to get married to have a good reltionship including some hot sex
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 9:11 PM
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jefco
thanks for the male viewpoint
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 9:10 PM
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Everything is left to what the mind can handle. sam
posted by
sam444
on April 13, 2008 at 8:40 PM
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Okay ladies
How about some middle ground like, liking the person you have sex with or loving them without being "in" love, of course if a guy wakes up the next day to find out there was a marriage tag attached to a fun night out, he will be heading the other direction (unless he was smitten on a emotional level too).
Lots of guys and girls have had one night stands without the plans of a lifetime attached, but I think there are very few who sleep with someone they don't at least like (assuming choice of course).
I have never slept with a girl I didn't like and I don't know any of my male friends who have either. I can also add that I honestly love more than one of my female friends (intimate or not), where neither one of us is "in" love or wants a commitment past a loving friendship.
I mean you gals hopefully like sex so if you're with a partner you like as a person and he knows how to please you and he likes you as a person and you respect each other, does it have to be marriage next.
All that said I'll admit the hottest one night stand doesn't hold a candle to a passionate night with a woman I'm "in" love with, there are few things in life more rewarding then true intimacy with your true love and I long for it, but thats the ultimate destination why can't the road along the way be enjoyed as well?
posted by
jefco
on April 13, 2008 at 8:17 PM
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lustor, just be single like I am! LOL
posted by
shelly_b
on April 13, 2008 at 7:48 PM
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Re: Re: No, it doesn't always work out that way, but I think too many people are
ok this is what has happened with me I relate love to sex, but men dont have any realtion to sex and love, so with me I did it because I felt like it would be more than sex, I was dumb and naive and still fall sometimes even today
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 7:48 PM
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Re sweetheart...
then i just might resort to your suggestion...why not! (who said i didnt want it?) lol!!!
posted by
__Purple_Mermaid11__
on April 13, 2008 at 7:45 PM
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Re: No, it doesn't always work out that way, but I think too many people are
but if you have tried all the above what is left
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 7:44 PM
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Purple_Mermaid11
But what if you never find love
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 7:43 PM
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No, it doesn't always work out that way, but I think too many people are
looking for love in bars and places where people are there to pick up women (and men) only for sex, not love...if you want both, seek it from a person (and in places) who "intend" more. I realize some people lie and say they want more just to get laid, but I believe there are honest people out there who seek companionship for the long haul...try going to a church single's group or hook up with a single's match group where the profile says the man is looking for long-term (marriage, if that's what you want.) Just my two cents
posted by
Ariala
on April 13, 2008 at 7:40 PM
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sex without love is circus for me my love...it's just so unfeeling...
posted by
__Purple_Mermaid11__
on April 13, 2008 at 7:39 PM
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LOL, what????
posted by
shelly_b
on April 13, 2008 at 7:34 PM
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Re: lustor
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 7:31 PM
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lustor
posted by
shelly_b
on April 13, 2008 at 7:04 PM
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ZenMom
with me sex and love go hand in hand, but I cant disconnect the two when having sex it feels like it leading to love, but in most cases it doesnt for the man
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 7:02 PM
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Re: Ariala
lustorlove.........ariala is RIGHT for ariala...she can only speak for herself. you are certainly right when you say "sometimes it just doesn't work that way"........and THAT IS REALLY OKAY.
posted by
ZenMom
on April 13, 2008 at 6:28 PM
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Re: One more reason not to follow the norm...I say if the man loves you, he'll
Seriously, god's plan for YOU might be marriage then sex but for MOST sex comes first, as well it should with consenting adults of course.
posted by
ZenMom
on April 13, 2008 at 6:25 PM
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True..a one night stand CAN be degrading but, it doesn't have to be. If you go into it knowing it's for pleasure only, it can be oh so much fun. One has to remove the guilt factor re: sex. Sex does not have to = love.
posted by
ZenMom
on April 13, 2008 at 6:22 PM
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shelly
that no comment says it all
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 6:13 PM
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CRShelley
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 6:13 PM
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Ariala
you are right but sometimes it just doesnt work that way
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 6:10 PM
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whiteknight3128
no nice white knights out there
posted by
Lanetay
on April 13, 2008 at 6:10 PM
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One more reason not to follow the norm...I say if the man loves you, he'll
wait and make a commitment first. This "it's just sex" business leads to heartache for one or both at some point. God's plan is marriage, then sex...not the other way around...but each has to come to their own decisions and conclusions...I hope you find someone special
posted by
Ariala
on April 13, 2008 at 5:39 PM
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hmmmmmm
sorry you feel this way and/or have had a bad experience.... .have a good day... keep smiling....
posted by
whiteknight3128
on April 13, 2008 at 5:36 PM
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posted by
CRShelley
on April 13, 2008 at 5:31 PM
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No comment. LOL
posted by
shelly_b
on April 13, 2008 at 5:22 PM
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