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Re: Oh those tiny screaming poop-machines
Hagi,
Sounds like you're one proud Mom!
Thanks for reading 
posted by
Sira890
on March 20, 2008 at 8:14 PM
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Re:
elysian,
I think most people would have the same concerns, if they're thinking about having kids. Maybe the best route is to just not think too hard, and let things happen if they will!
Thanks for reading 
posted by
Sira890
on March 20, 2008 at 8:11 PM
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Oh those tiny screaming poop-machines
are the best thing ever; to see this tiny little being so ready to receive love, a first smile that shines just because you entered the room... Of course, I am blessed with calm and smart kids (and beautiful, talented, curious, loving etc. :D), so I might be prejudiced. But anyhow, the mere worrying about these matters is what means you'll most likely be a good mother.
posted by
hagi
on March 20, 2008 at 11:23 AM
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First what a great note to write on appreciation ~ You're a lovely one you...
--- secondly, on your concerns...I have 2 older (of 4) that have claimed exactly what you have stated here...and I, quite frankly, have considered it for us all myself...(since I being the Grandparent) --- I am a Grandmother now of an 8 year old Granddaughter and am soon to be a Grandmother again to a 2nd -- (not sure of sex of course) --- but, all said and done, and with all their planning and concerns, well, I only pray all the more and visit with Hope, Love and care-support while we all carry on. As my daughter tells me: and the circle goes on ~
Elyse
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elysianfields
on March 20, 2008 at 9:37 AM
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Re: Oh, Sira!
Kaboom,
The fact that you question what it takes to be a good parent, and strive to do what's right, makes you a fantastic parent! You're kids are terribly lucky to have you and your hubby, and to be raised in such a loving home!
I'll admit, the thought of seeing the product of me and Mark is intriguing. I'd like to think I'd be a decent parent, but who knows. I guess we'll just have to wait and see!
Thanks for reading
posted by
Sira890
on March 19, 2008 at 11:29 AM
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Re: Babies have a way of winning you over
Azur,
I'll admit, I've started to realize why people spend so much time fawning over babies. They really are cute little things (especially when they're not pooping and crying...).
Thanks for reading
posted by
Sira890
on March 19, 2008 at 11:23 AM
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Re: Sira890
LOL Wiley!
I'm not sure the world is ready for a mini-Mark and/or Sira!
Thanks for reading
posted by
Sira890
on March 19, 2008 at 11:16 AM
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Re: If you have a child you might one day have a grandchild. And that's when
The grandchild sounds great Kabu! It's the getting there that's tough!
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posted by
Sira890
on March 19, 2008 at 11:14 AM
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Re: Sira
Naut,
If you haven't already, you should check out the movie "Idiocracy". It's got some twisted humor, but the underlying message speaks a lot to what you're saying here.
2.1 kids...what is that, like 2 whole kids, and an arm??
posted by
Sira890
on March 19, 2008 at 11:13 AM
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Re: On the other hand, Sira, there's a good deal of satisfaction when your
Pat,
I went back and re-read your post about your family's visit (the one featuring the lasagna you didn't have to cook!). And I think I see what you mean--it sure sounds like you enjoy talking to them, and I'll bet it would be pretty rewarding to know that you helped to create the intelligent person sitting across from you.
Every parent I've ever talked to said the same thing--raising kids is the best job they ever had. I guess that's something that you have to have experienced to really understand.
Thanks for reading
posted by
Sira890
on March 19, 2008 at 10:45 AM
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Re: So many questions, Sira..and also all the doubts...
ginnie,
I think it would take a tremendous effort to raise a child--it's a sacrifice that changes your life forever. But you're right--if done properly, we have the opportunity to create a good person, and watch as that person strives to bring a bit more love into the world. If we had enough "good kids" running around, maybe this old world would be a little less unfriendly.
Of course, not all parent's have 'done right' by their children, and that's a sad statement in itself. But for the most part, I think being a parent is a job that comes with very few pats on the back. For me, it's not a matter of owing them anything. It's about recognizing what they did for me, and respecting them enough as people and parents, to want to be able to give something back.
Thanks for reading, and for the great comments!
posted by
Sira890
on March 19, 2008 at 10:41 AM
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Oh, Sira!
You would make a great Mom! I mean, you would love your kid(s)! I agree with Nauti, you and Mark are a couple that should have kids!! It would be a waste not to, everyone here knows that! Take me, I am a hopeless Mom, I am often frustrated and many times have been at odds and as to 'what is good parenting'???? (Especially now in the teenage years) The answer being I DON'T KNOW!!! BUT, hubby and I love our kids, 200% and they know it!! You are so knowledgeable and talented, you picked Mark, and....the product of the two of you!! Isn't that tantalizing!!!
posted by
KaBooM62
on March 19, 2008 at 1:38 AM
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Babies have a way of winning you over
even if they leave you saying silly words to them.
Sooner or later you just hold your nose and jump in. No amount of thinking about it changes that. Children don't become easier, they just change as they grow. One challenge replaces another, the joy remains. I always remember my late father saying 'never expect your children to be grateful' so I guess I exceded his expectation on that score.
posted by
Azur
on March 19, 2008 at 12:44 AM
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Sira890
From all I've read of you and Mark luv, not to have a child would be depriving this world of reproductions of the wonders you and Mark.
Yeah, yeah, I don't know him but if you picked him you've gotta be a smashing couple luv.
posted by
WileyJohn
on March 18, 2008 at 9:20 PM
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If you have a child you might one day have a grandchild. And that's when
it's wonderful I call it double love.
posted by
Kabu
on March 18, 2008 at 9:07 PM
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Sira
This is one of those posts that deserves a whole series in reply, but I think I'll be done with series for a bit, lol. So I'll keep this comment short, and just draw your attention to one important and very alarming demographic fact: people 'like you' (and don't ask me to unpack that statement, lol) do not have enough kids! People who shouldn't have kids have too many...
So go and have a couple of 'em, which is the minimum required to sustain our population! Actually, we need 2.1 per couple, so you can add a little bit extra...
posted by
Nautikos
on March 18, 2008 at 2:13 PM
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On the other hand, Sira, there's a good deal of satisfaction when your
kids grow up and begin quoting chapter and verse the things you taught them, explaining the logic of their point as though you'd never heard it. It is a time when you smile and nod and maybe even say "I never thought of that" all the while in your mind you're doing that gesture with your fist, bringing your elbow down and saying "Yes!" Of all the ambitions I've had, all the projects I've undertaken, the jobs, etc., raising children was by far my best investment.
posted by
Pat_B
on March 18, 2008 at 2:08 PM
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So many questions, Sira..and also all the doubts...
..it's not an easy decision. My son and his girlfriend discuss this and talk about not wanting to bring a child into this world that can be so unfriendly. But I believe that if a child is loved and cared for..and it honestly doesn't take much to do that...especially if you've come from a loving home..then that child will be a major contributor to society and will be there to carry on your legacy of love and concern for others and for the world. I don't really believe that our children owe us for taking care of them though...after all..they didn't ask to be born...that was our decision to bring them into the world. I'm not saying that we shouldn't care for our parents but not all parents are terrific role models...not all of them tucked us into bed each night. And on another flip side, and I think I've said this before, not all teenagers are difficult creatures...there is so much fun to be had, sitting around a table and talking and listening to their interesting views as they morph into adulthood. It's cool! Anyhoo..those are just some of my thoughts...great post!!
posted by
ginnieb
on March 18, 2008 at 1:55 PM
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