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Kabu
I keep trying to mend the fences, but they have to admit their wrong doings. I have tried to let by gones be by gones but I agree I will never have the same relationship and it is sad because I feel as though my whole life has been a lie. I never thought that anything could come between my parents and I but i have learned so differently!! We have to go on..I will keep you in my prayers.
posted by
StrickGold
on February 25, 2008 at 9:15 AM
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Wiley
Thanks! It hurts because my parents were my best friends. They went on vacations with us. We did almost everything with them. I talked to my mother long distance at least once a day. My dad just turned 70, and my daughter keeps me up to date on how they are doing and my dad may have prostate cancer. I was a mama and daddy's girl now I have no parents. It has been hard but I know that I did what was best for my daughter and granddaughter. I will continue to call on occassion, one of these days they are going to need me again
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StrickGold
on February 25, 2008 at 9:12 AM
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Goldie
We've been pals at a distance a long time now luv, and I am so sorry you've been through all this but I congratulate you. As a father of 5 and step-father to 4 more, I have your problem in reverse, the kids have not treated me well.
After talking with a psychotherapist about this problem and many others over the years I learned to DROP what I must to keep on living and being happy, and finally now that meant 'dropping' most of my kids except for 1 step-daughter who is the most loving and secure in herself. My kids are all over 40 anyway.
The actions of your parents are manipulative and controlling, and as a 71 year old father/grandfather I applaud your courage and forthrightness as well as your taking care of your responsibilities luv.
Be happy, keep well, bon courage.
posted by
WileyJohn
on February 21, 2008 at 8:25 PM
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this all made me sad for you because it's awful when families split
My youngest son and his wife were my best friends always and I just about brought up their babies. Now though they hate me. The wife turned against me and now nothing no contact. Darling I am convinced that we just have to keep going. but like you I also know when a relationship can never be the same.
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Kabu
on February 21, 2008 at 8:15 PM
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You obviously made your point which was in the best interest of the child. You would not have put yourself on the line for the trouble your encountered, I think the best thing to do is let it go. If they don't hear from you perhaps they will rethink their position. I hope you can find peace of mind in this awkward situation. sam
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sam444
on February 21, 2008 at 2:33 PM
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