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Re: Why You're the Target
When you try to help a wounded creature, especially one that doesn't fully understand the source of it's hurt, it's almost inevitable that it will snap at you. That doesn't mean that you have to like it, or that you should feel guilty for resenting it. Just don't take it personally; it would have happened to anyone in your situation.
posted by
PearTree
on February 15, 2008 at 10:24 AM
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PearTree
I agree I just dont understand why I have to be the target for everything that has gone wrong in her life. I am going to talk to Sparky this afternoon before Diva gets home from school and we are going to start seeing a counselor.. I cant do this anymore.
posted by
StrickGold
on February 12, 2008 at 10:35 AM
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I've known several families in similar situations. Sometimes professional counselling helps. "Diva" has been emotionally traumatized; and, like a broken bone or a ruptured organ, such injuries usually require medical attention.
posted by
PearTree
on February 12, 2008 at 10:13 AM
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I am not sure thats the case Diva's mom and dad divorced when she was five. Sparky remarried shortly afterwards to Charlie, she was extremely good to Diva until Buddy and Peanuckle came along and she was not willing to get along with Diva and moved out. They had some of the same issues that we have. Diva is a good kid though she is a teenager and very self centered and selfish at times, she is very vain and into herself which is not necessarily a bad thing what gets under my skin is that she is very manipulative. We have talked about family counseling and I feel it is necessary because Diva has never given me a chance and she compares me with Charlie and her mother is another story- she doesnt have a relationship with her. I think that she is looking for a female role model but she will not let anyone get close to her and I have never pushed her. its just crazy we have a love hate relationship there is no gray area she loves me when I am spending money on her otherwise she does things that she knows make me upset
posted by
StrickGold
on February 12, 2008 at 6:28 AM
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I don't believe it is as personal as you are taking it. Kids don't want their parents to split up. You are the enemy so to speak. The essential element is to raise Diva to be good human being. I think the kid is first while she is under age but the boundaries and respect has to be there or she will fail as an adult. I don't think the kid is a witch inasmuch as she is confused. I think family counseling is a great idea. Your blended family needs to grasp the likenesses and differences and an outside professional is a good start in my opinion only. I wish the very best of luck! sam
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sam444
on February 11, 2008 at 4:59 PM
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