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Re: It's an adventure
BC-A, yes - and I feel my mortality now more than ever...Thanks for your words and sharing a part of your family history with me.
posted by
Cynthia
on February 12, 2008 at 5:29 AM
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Re: Exquistely written, Cynthia....
ginnieb- Your words are most appreciated...It was revealing when I flipped through my old family photo albums and noted that in every family event, where pictures were taken, I was with my dad, holding his hand or snuggling next to him on the couch. My mother is usually seen in the background.
posted by
Cynthia
on February 12, 2008 at 5:27 AM
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It's an adventure
21 years since my father's death, 4.2 years since my mother passed away. I'd like to share better words of comfort, but that's how it's for me. Just continue your activities and life.
posted by
BC-A
on February 10, 2008 at 4:12 PM
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Exquistely written, Cynthia....
...what an amazing glimpse into such a raw and beautiful relationship with your Dad. How few are able to love and accept all the imperfections of a life...and we are all so imperfect! I think there is a lot to be said for having the opportunity to say those final goodbyes. Holding his hand, telling him you loved him...priceless moments that will get you through the tears and the years. I am sorry for the loss of your dad, Cynthia and in awe at the connection you both shared. Beautiful.
posted by
ginnieb
on February 10, 2008 at 8:45 AM
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Re: Cynthia
Dear Azur, I hope there is a good prognosis for you...My dad believed every breath was worth it...
posted by
Cynthia
on February 10, 2008 at 8:20 AM
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Re: Sam44
I am now much moreaware of my own mortality. Thanks for your comment.
posted by
Cynthia
on February 10, 2008 at 8:19 AM
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Re: My sincerest condolences to you.
NewYorker in Sicily, thanks for your wise comments. ( I too am a displaced NewYorker)...
posted by
Cynthia
on February 10, 2008 at 8:18 AM
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Oh, and ....
please accept my condolences. Death is a shock when it comes even when we know it must.
posted by
Azur
on February 9, 2008 at 1:55 PM
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Cynthia
Your mother probably had no need to confront again the truths she's known forever. It
is something I think, when we look at our parents and see ourselves. I was able to do this
with my own father. He is the age I am now when he died. Oh, something about this hits me
when I write that in a week where I must face up to illness again.
posted by
Azur
on February 9, 2008 at 1:54 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing this poignant story! sam
posted by
sam444
on February 9, 2008 at 10:33 AM
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My sincerest condolences to you.
Death isn't only a physical passing; it would be too simple. When loved ones leave us tidal waves of emotions go through your mind -what was, what is and what could have been. Cherish your father's memories forever, including his shortcomings. It's the encyclopaedia we call on as we grow old. And be proud of the father/daughter relationship you had, both silent and verbal. That will carry you through the sad part of physically missing him.
posted by
NewYorker_in_Sicily
on February 9, 2008 at 10:13 AM
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