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I divorced in 1996. Hardest thing I've ever had to do but I knew it was the right thing. But, I survived........so did the kids...........Go with your gut.....but, don't make it just about the "cheating" because sometimes you can get past that. Make sure you have a good support system (friends, family). You sound pretty tough to me..........good luck.
Zen
posted by
ZenMom
on February 8, 2008 at 10:59 AM
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You'll get over it and sure you'll be in better place
posted by
AlienFemale
on February 6, 2008 at 1:48 PM
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I was in a bad marriage for 17 years. I got out and took my kids with me. It was frightening and it was the best for the kids and myself. You will find someone special when the time is right. You have done the hardest part already. Don't settle for giving your children the very best you can. If it was working he wold still be there. It isn't and be resolved to move forward. If you take him back you get to do it all over again. Stay firm, much good luck! sam
posted by
sam444
on February 6, 2008 at 1:02 PM
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Re: well im a 23 yr old guy...
thank you so much! My husband cheated, too. It was 3 years ago and I stayed for the kids, but I just can't anymore. I appreciate your words and your perspective - thanks.
posted by
flappergirl
on February 6, 2008 at 12:52 PM
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well im a 23 yr old guy...
but my mom was in a similar situation...found out my dad was cheating and kicked him out of the house (she was around 40 then) and raised my 2 sisters and i by herself and from conversations with her i know she was scared and didnt think she could handle raising us by herself but she had some help from her mother and was backed in strong faith in God and she knew that she could not live with him anymore and she didnt...as far as i can remember my dad has never lived under the same roof as us and it was her courage to make that move which improved her quality of life although she was single that whole time and still is but would rather b that than living in an unhappy marriage with an unfaithful husband (i know you said yours was controlling) which to me is jus as damaging because thats not healthy and if you feel you need to break away do it and remain resolute and jus explain to your children why you did...they may not understand now but when they get older and reflect on the situation they will know why you did it
posted by
quietguy7
on February 6, 2008 at 12:49 PM
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