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Soulbuilder..in reality there is no positive / negative..
there is only rational / irrational..this piece is rational..not necessarily every piece of yours..hey, but you're only human, right ?..you sure are very intelligent though, and it's my pleasure & honor that you've taken some interest in my work, thank you ! - Ash
posted by
ash_pradhan
on February 1, 2008 at 6:57 PM
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Jacenta
Thanks! Ways of helping people have always existed! I just never gave them up for some nice- sounding but empty words!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:46 PM
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Taffy000
I Read your blog! I have been to casinos! I've seen winners! I didn't win! That's luck! But you must not feel failure because you are not in somebody else's shoes. I studied hard to succeed and my success was deliberately destroyed by others. What can I do but keep struggling to survive!!! Thanks!!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:43 PM
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pen dragon
Yes! A typical tool of churches going about talking to people. It gets the attention! I have God and Devil on my blog but I explain not scare!!! Thanks!!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:38 PM
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Re: Be positive..... but don't supress your negative feelings too.. Allow t
Don't know! I never started talking the positive/negative language! I simply ignored pos/neg and continued my old merry way because it had nothing to offer me!!! Thanks!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:36 PM
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Re: Please write more about this..
Thanks Orcalion! Hope you pinpoint your solution!!! I have a Part 3 coming!!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:34 PM
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King Kai
Thanks Man!!!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:32 PM
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Re: Great going Soul_builder!
Thanks Purple Mermaid!!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:32 PM
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Re: Hey Bhaijee--Sitaram/shalom. We are similar in Indian genes...but I sha
Me too! Its in the NOSE!!!!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:31 PM
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Taps
I believe it is more related to invalidation than the desire to help!!! Thanks!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:30 PM
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Sinome
Thanks Sinome! Blessings!!!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:29 PM
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Re: for all its faults, I love America. Poeple here dazzle u & daze/haze/ta
Thanks Neil!! I like the haze/taze/faze bit!! That picture is amazing! The innocence of the innocent!!!! Thanks again!!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:28 PM
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Re: this was a well thought out blog today Dave. thanks for the wisdom
Thanks Kabu!! Part 2 has been posted. I hope the quality is OK!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:25 PM
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Re: Much food for thought. Thanks.
Yep! You're correct! Thanks!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:24 PM
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Bright Irish
I believe in living my way and doing things my way! I reason things out rather than follow the mantras of others. Its my right! The way I would deal with things is reflected in my blog. You seem to have done it your way too!!! Thanks!!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:23 PM
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Re: I hate the expression "Get over it."
Thanks CEEMarie! Get over it ...leaves you in more trouble than if the person had shut up!! Some people do not know how to help!! So they take the easy way out! Or, they make you feel stupid! Don't complain is another popular one. Solve the problem your way! If the suggestions make you feel bad, tell the offender...thanks but no thanks!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:18 PM
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lestate7
Thank you!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:13 PM
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Sam444
Thanks Sam!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:12 PM
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Re: quite interesting
I like being fair to people! There are ways to help that don't take a lot of time! Thanks!!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:11 PM
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Re: Thank you for this excellent post
Thanks Kayzzaman!!!
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on February 1, 2008 at 6:09 PM
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Soul_Builder101
This is an excellent post, a piece of truth.
A verbal, "snap out of it and think positive" is not the answer for someone in dire need of homeostasis.
posted by
jacentaOld
on February 1, 2008 at 2:02 PM
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Yeah
I look at this in another way too. You can apply this to way of thinking to life in general. I saw this television segment. This young girl wanted a pair of pants made out of this upholstery fabric. She found a seamstress who said it couldn't be done. You can't make pants out of that type of fabric. The girl made her own darn pants. So the story goes she was walking across the street & another woman saw her pants & wanted them for her store. End of story that girl who made her own pants is now the head of a million dollar company. She didn't go to design school. Things just fell into place. One can look at that and say "why not me." I'm such a failure because things don't happen like that to me.
posted by
Taffy000
on February 1, 2008 at 11:06 AM
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It's like people who use devil and God words to sway someone unconsciously...
posted by
pen_dragon
on February 1, 2008 at 8:34 AM
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Be positive..... but don't supress your negative feelings too.. Allow them,
analyse them, then turn them to positive..... Don't hide the feelings.... we all are human.... like day and night we have our positive and negative moods, let them come to surface, learn them and fix it to make a stronger person......
posted by
star4sky5
on February 1, 2008 at 8:00 AM
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Please write more about this..
Hi Dave.. I'm currently helping a friend, but so far, it seems like that none of my suggestions work well for her (different situations, different minds and different agendas..). I still refuse to give up. But to go on, I need to know more about this Positive-Negative issues. Hope to read more from you. Thanks.
posted by
orcalion
on February 1, 2008 at 7:49 AM
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Good post
posted by
KingKai
on February 1, 2008 at 7:19 AM
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Great going Soul_builder!
splendid piece...
posted by
__Purple_Mermaid11__
on February 1, 2008 at 12:34 AM
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Hey Bhaijee--Sitaram/shalom. We are similar in Indian genes...but I shave 2
posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on February 1, 2008 at 12:17 AM
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You know, Soul_Builder,
I was just thinking of this post in terms of our presidential election campaigns and debates going on right now in the US. I don't think I have heard anyone suggest to the candidates that they need to have a positive attitude, or that they are being negative. When it comes right down to important situations, people want answers and to get answers, there has to be some extensive thoughts and discussions on the problems. I am afraid though that on more personal and individual levels, human beings do, too often, incline themselves to invalidate others.
posted by
TAPS.
on January 31, 2008 at 11:07 PM
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G-d bless you Soul, Be well
posted by
Sinome
on January 31, 2008 at 9:51 PM
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it's like kissing a pig--some pigs are clean, and some are young & cute
http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/861/3242/400/firstkiss.jpg
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ILLUMINATI8
on January 31, 2008 at 9:36 PM
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for all its faults, I love America. Poeple here dazzle u & daze/haze/taze U
this article is incisive ..at a depth of honesty that capitalism cannot fathom or survive while swimming. Shalom
http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/861/3242/400/firstkiss.jpg
posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on January 31, 2008 at 9:35 PM
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this was a well thought out blog today Dave. thanks for the wisdom
posted by
Kabu
on January 31, 2008 at 8:26 PM
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Much food for thought. Thanks.
It seems that the relationship between the listener and the person expounding is of utmost importance. That relationship must be defined before any real communication can take place. I'll be thinking about your blog! Thanks again.
posted by
ger_musser
on January 31, 2008 at 8:01 PM
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I ment nurturing.
posted by
BrightIrish
on January 31, 2008 at 4:34 PM
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Nutuing is a large part of my personality and I tend to want to help everyone in need, over the years while going through my own suffering .. I concluded that sometimes a listening ear and extended hands are enough to begin healing. There are times when anothers silence is really golden. Wonderful Post! 
posted by
BrightIrish
on January 31, 2008 at 4:33 PM
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I hate the expression "Get over it."
I don't often use the "h" word. But when someone says to another person, "Get over it," it means they're finished listening, it's your problem. It's a conversation ender. It's a relationship ender. It makes one feel like a complainer, a whiner or worse, not having a problem worth hearing about. How does one get over "it?"
Cee
posted by
LadyCeeMarie
on January 31, 2008 at 3:09 PM
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You write awesome!
posted by
lestate7
on January 31, 2008 at 1:47 PM
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Amen! Be supportive not life changing at the whim of another's whim. You are a great soul builder, my friend! sam
posted by
sam444
on January 31, 2008 at 12:44 PM
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quite interesting
i agree that in order to begin to solve any problems that you must get to the root of them and b aware of all underlying issues and of course in this lovely western society lol some people do think that simply saying "act positive" is a panacea for any ill that seems to b affecting us but truly like you said some people are suffering and need more than a simple mantra
posted by
quietguy7
on January 31, 2008 at 11:28 AM
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Thank you for this excellent post
posted by
Kayzzaman
on January 31, 2008 at 11:11 AM
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