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Lustorlove
I agree-- I have been telling him for months that we need to get away. Even he is aware that we do, we just can't seem to make it happen.

posted by StrickGold on January 14, 2008 at 7:19 AM | link to this | reply

Maggie
We talked about his parents too, consuming our lives.  His dad was served the divorce papers Saturday Night so he showed up at our house at 10:30pm, so much for our weekend alone but what could I say or do. Sparky was in the middle and he kept apolgizing to me.  More on the events of the weekend later. I am running late for work so I need to get my butt out the door

posted by StrickGold on January 14, 2008 at 7:17 AM | link to this | reply

Ariala

Thanks--for reading

We did talk and there were some misunderstandings on my part.  As well, as actions on his part that he didnt realize would effect me the way it did.  Things are better and we were able to talk.

 

posted by StrickGold on January 14, 2008 at 7:14 AM | link to this | reply

Kabu
We had that talk and things are worked out.  Last week was a very stressful week for both of us.  On some issues I overreacted on others I didnt but we are working on them

posted by StrickGold on January 14, 2008 at 7:13 AM | link to this | reply

Kayzzaman
thanks for reading

posted by StrickGold on January 14, 2008 at 7:11 AM | link to this | reply

afzal
Thanks

posted by StrickGold on January 14, 2008 at 7:10 AM | link to this | reply

you need to get away and spice up that spark with sparky, get his some viagra to keep the fires burning

posted by Lanetay on January 13, 2008 at 3:55 PM | link to this | reply

He can't love you halfway, Strick, it's all or nothing............

I think you need to talk to him, let him know you can't be there just for his needs, you have needs too.  Love can't be one-sided.        

As for his parents, they sound healthy and able.  His father may need some attention to get him through this because he will realize that he is alone and will need help with the adjustment.  Mama seems to know what she wants.  Of course, you have to be there for them, but don't let it absorb you.  Sound like you need to work on your  relationship and I beg you, don't take it all on your shoulders.  If he can't work with you, get your hat.  Good luck.

posted by MaggieMae on January 13, 2008 at 3:43 PM | link to this | reply

I read this post and the one previous to it, and it sounds like you need
some clarity here...the confusion has to be cleared away before you can feel you trust him...have that talk!

posted by Ariala on January 12, 2008 at 4:10 AM | link to this | reply

Have that long talk even if you find it difficult to get a lot of time
alone. Don't put it off. We are working through stuff all the time. Not all of it easy either.

posted by Kabu on January 11, 2008 at 10:23 PM | link to this | reply

Very good!

posted by Kayzzaman on January 11, 2008 at 10:57 AM | link to this | reply

posted by afzal50 on January 11, 2008 at 10:55 AM | link to this | reply

sam

He does do that and I acknowledge that.  He does on most accounts demonstrate by doing. 

As for his parents they should have divorced 23 yrs ago that I know of--his mother has never been happy but she wouldnt do anything about it- now she has

His dad is belittling and in shock b/c he didnt think she would ever do it and he doesnt think women are capable of anything without a man--yes very old fashioned.  I get along well with both of them and always have but I sometimes feel like a babysitter

posted by StrickGold on January 11, 2008 at 10:53 AM | link to this | reply

sam

He does do that and I acknowledge that.  He does on most accounts demonstrate by doing. 

As for his parents they should have divorced 23 yrs ago that I know of--his mother has never been happy but she wouldnt do anything about it- now she has

His dad is belittling and in shock b/c he didnt think she would ever do it and he doesnt think women are capable of anything without a man--yes very old fashioned.  I get along well with both of them and always have but I sometimes feel like a babysitter

posted by StrickGold on January 11, 2008 at 10:53 AM | link to this | reply

No one is perfect. I adore the fact that he takes his time to make sure your time is going good. We all confuse each other, he demonstrates by doing. So enjoy your time together. As for the in-laws, I would think compassion is what they need most now. And, perhaps your man is frightened, he probably never expected his folks to get a divorce.   sam

posted by sam444 on January 11, 2008 at 10:28 AM | link to this | reply