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Seedlings
Sparky isnt the problem ,my ex husband is the one that was abusive!! Sparky has helped me to be a better person and the only real problems that we have are caused by his self centered 15 yr old daughter but she is getting better and our relationship is growing, she wants her dad to be happy and she sees that he is unless she has caused a disagreement between us. She is trying to do what is asked of her and things are going well.
I did get rid of the negative in my life and that was my ex husband--something I should have done 13 yrs ago
posted by
StrickGold
on January 8, 2008 at 8:57 AM
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Kaboom
Thanks for reading I really appreciate it
posted by
StrickGold
on January 8, 2008 at 8:53 AM
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Straight
My life has never been BORING thats for sure!!
posted by
StrickGold
on January 8, 2008 at 8:50 AM
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b2008
Fortunatly Sparky and I do have good communication. He knows that I am very opinionated to some degree and that when I am backed in a corner I am going to come out fighting hence the nickname that he has given me "Spunkie" I have been that way my whole life though he is making me softer, I dont scream now and I am learning to communicate better without the yelling and caddy remarks. Thanks for reading B
posted by
StrickGold
on January 8, 2008 at 8:50 AM
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You live some life! Cheers!!!
posted by
Straightforward
on January 8, 2008 at 3:45 AM
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I'm
a readin' ya'
posted by
KaBooM62
on January 7, 2008 at 8:37 PM
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posted by
afzal50
on January 7, 2008 at 5:41 PM
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Strickgold
NO, you don't need a shrink, you need to get rid of Sparky! I know this sounds harsh, but I had to give up the love of my life last year...now I have a shrink to help me let go. In time I know I will not only regain my brain but my common sense too...my independence too. I really do know what you are going thru, but you only see what you want to, like I did for far too many years. Take it from an outsider...give up Sparky and claim yourself. I will help you, for as I say I'm going thru hell, but I know I cannot go any further down, I can only go up from here. I'm scared, scared to death at my age, but ...well, I could go on and on, but just suffice it to say, I care, I want you to be okay and do think about giving up the love of your life to regain yours.
posted by
SEEDLINGS
on January 7, 2008 at 2:37 PM
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Oh my goodness, you poor child...
...and I can imagine how alone you must feel. It seems you have a lot of baggage you need to get rid of hon, and I know how confused and hurt you must feel when there's no one you can talk to that understands. If there any way you can sit down with Sparky first and come to an accord between you how best to run your marriage without the interference of others. Set some boundaries and make everybody accountable. That's always a good start but you and sparky must be together on this. Agree to disagree if you must, just agree to being there for each other no matter what. There should be no third parties in your marriage. None at all!
posted by
b2008
on January 7, 2008 at 1:18 PM
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Offy
What destination sounds inviting to you??
posted by
StrickGold
on January 7, 2008 at 11:38 AM
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StrickGold...yeah, nice hotel, good room service menu...hot tub. Hey I think I need that too!
posted by
Offy
on January 7, 2008 at 11:34 AM
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Offy
I would love to get away for a few days...just lock myself somewhere in a hotel room with a hot tub, room service, a good view and a good book. Starting again this afternoon I am going to start working out at the gym. I know that will help a lot. If I can remember where my ipod is at then I will even feel better.
posted by
StrickGold
on January 7, 2008 at 11:31 AM
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Whoa...you have been through a lot this last year! You may need therapy to deal with all the changes you have gone through. How in the hell have you manged to remain sane is beyond me...2 ex wives living that close would have done me in straight out the gate...Quite frankly I think all you need is some space and time to absorb what's around you...Good luck..
posted by
Offy
on January 7, 2008 at 11:28 AM
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Kabu
My parents don't approve and think that I have traded my daughter and granddaughter for Sparky's 3 kids. I have spent the last 40 yrs trying to please them along with everyone else. For the first time in my life I am happy and loved its as if I am not suppose to be happy!
It just amazes me how my parents can be so stubborn and set in their ways.
I guess right now I am just trying to figure out where I fit in
I let my real estate license expire and I cant seem to find a job that pays as well as I am use to.
Sparky knows that I was married to $$ and questions if what he has to offer is good enough. Money isnt everything-- I just want to be loved and to be happy
posted by
StrickGold
on January 7, 2008 at 11:21 AM
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Darling OMG is this your story or mine.
My ex. used to drive me to the hospital to get mental help for me because he said I was mad. There was never anything wrong with me, he just projected all of his mental issues onto me
I've gained the love of my life(darling Wiley) but have lost
my second marriage(well hurray for that)
my son, 2 of my grand children
my home, I'm about to lose a chunk of my income
my sister and my best friend...they don't approve of me having a new love.
So here we are living our lives as we must and lets just relax and enjoy what we have. I class blogit as one of my big gains as well!
posted by
Kabu
on January 7, 2008 at 11:11 AM
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