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Just ask for the man you want believe and receive him in your heart and he will come.

posted by hope26 on March 16, 2008 at 5:35 PM | link to this | reply

Re: Great question, fancygirl. And welcome to Blogit.

You are absolutely correct! I agree.  There is total lack of commitment with people these days.  It's so easy to get out.  I posted this because I wanted to see if people truly believe in marriage or if it's by convenience.  Values & intergrity also play an important role.

 

Thank you for your input.

 

Kimberly

 

 

posted by fancygirl33 on January 2, 2008 at 3:31 AM | link to this | reply

Great question, fancygirl. And welcome to Blogit.
To answer your question: marriage for life is for the select few of us who can: 1) tolerate a partner for long enough to last that long, 2) people who don't own guns or drink, 3) people who can truly find that comfort zone of compromise needed to withstand life's vicissitudes, or 4) have a spouse that dies early enough that the other doesn't hate or resent them.  And before you think I'm not being serious, think again.  Yes, my answers are a bit negative and maybe darkly humorous, but I'll stand by them.  Most people do not marry people that are good for them or complimentary.  They marry on lust and whim and dedication to an idyllic expectation.  They marry in denial and with expectations and for all the wrong reasons.  They marry again and again (because many of them divorce again and again).  No, marriage for life is not for everyone.  And it shouldn't be.  People change over time.  Their wants and needs change.  Marriage is a social construct that, when or if it becomes constricting to the parties involved, should be nullified or negated.  Living fifty plus years with someone you hate or despise or dislike is too high a price to pay to prove you're a martyr for some antiquated ideal of domestic partnership... 

posted by saul_relative on December 31, 2007 at 10:08 PM | link to this | reply

Marriage for Life

Hi Justi,

Thank you for your input.  My feelings are exactly the same as yours & I still hold true to them.  My parents have been married for 42 years.  I am so happy to know that God has sent you your one & only true love. 

We all need to hear the good stories, the happy endings, especially in today's world where infidelity keeps growing & growing.  I focus on the postitive & want to be able to learn from these responses & hopefully help someone as well.

Thank you for sharing your story. 

May God Bless you & your family

K

posted by fancygirl33 on December 30, 2007 at 8:27 PM | link to this | reply

fancy girl
I do believe in marriage for life, to the same person except in the case of infidelity or abuse (verbal and physical). I also disagree with the last commenter. I believe the right spouse is sent by God. First husband I chose, second husband God sent. I was married, gave birth to three children. Divorced because of abuse. Was single 12 years and remarried and have been for 24 years. I have an excellent marriage. Many points you cover are vital. Forgiveness of the spouse and yourself. Infidelity is not acceptable from either party and marriage is necessary to the best of relationships.

posted by Justi on December 30, 2007 at 6:05 PM | link to this | reply

Marriage is a decision !

Not made in heaven

But by two souls trying to keep it sane

In a world going insane !!

Best wishes,

Ash

posted by ash_pradhan on December 30, 2007 at 4:25 PM | link to this | reply

you don't want me to answer......because I go on and on .......
if you really find the right guy, just marry and live forever......

posted by star4sky5 on December 30, 2007 at 3:53 PM | link to this | reply

I am divorced and have been waiting for the kids to get on their own so I can devote my time to my writing. But, if you be yourself and keep your expectations and I believe it will be easy to find the right person.  sam

posted by sam444 on December 30, 2007 at 3:50 PM | link to this | reply