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JOAB
It was meant to read NOW there's a few statements, not NO!!! Sorry, typing error. Take care.
Bless
posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 19, 2007 at 12:07 PM
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Joab
No there's a few statements. Many thanks for input. Take care.
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posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 19, 2007 at 11:57 AM
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MARRIAGE
No foundation; no structure; no chance. joab
posted by
joab1
on December 19, 2007 at 9:42 AM
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TO ALL
Many thanks for the reads and inputs given regarding these statements, appreciated.
Blessings
posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 19, 2007 at 5:39 AM
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Gave
Yeah you are right in the sense, anything is possible. Many thanks for your input here. Take care.
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posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 19, 2007 at 5:34 AM
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Anything is possible...
Thanks for shareing....
posted by
gavelkorbald
on December 18, 2007 at 7:03 PM
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Stars
Thanks for that reply and input, especially for someone who'm it bares such sensitivity, so I do appreciate you taking the time to put your views and experiences forward, as it can't be easy to go over such memories and trauma, so to speak. I think your current views are worthy ones, also it is good not to hate anymore, as this can be a very destructive emotion to ones inner self. I can also relate to your statement of being married to music, as music can be a great comforter and friend, music can become part of you and more importantly, music is loyal. The pain may well be with you to stay, as the tears may well continue to fall, though they are better aired than kept confined. Take care stars.
Blessings.
posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 18, 2007 at 2:22 PM
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Hey...it's a big questionaire to answer.... But I can answer all questions.
I didn't get marry......but start living together in USA( we were best friends end up in love).told both of our family we got married....we both spoke same language, same caste, a lot of similarity attracted each other.... but eventually I understood he loves me like a kid with control, possessed me like a child.......still I tried the best . I used to be too proud to talk about him and my kids.....All my dreams are in great shape.... When I heard my second baby he lost full interest in me, but try to tell me that people have sex only for kids etc..... ( first of all from the begining, he loved for me being smart, but hated me every time if I try to be successful. Through out my school days, he gave me hard time, literally verbal or physical abuse. Still I stayed and believed that he never do anything like cheating, finally I woke up and smell the coffee..... like one of my friend said.... I found him cheating....... It was horrible feeling ........I threw stuff every where, try to kill me, try to get away..... All I did and took for counselling, but never could love him and left him once for an year. Here I couldn't take the kids with me at that point, so I had to leave them with him for about eight months, but every other week visit. Completely try to break, but couldn't. He bought my mind back with him being sick( he got sick at that time to get me).... Well again I tried, but we end up in same place..... We couldn't love..... I pretend happy in front of every one, but I am so unhappy.. So many times he pushed me to the edge ands finally I moved out of his room and staying in different rooms.....
Kids are smart..... it doesn't bother them. They adapt an attitude that if two people can not live together or marry.... or live in harmony must seperate. Now some of my relatives and friends knows it. We talk and walk like friends, but we can't be husband and wife or girl friend and boy friend. He try to pretend that he can love me, but it's an act..... It's the economy of the family.... Because he doesn't want to loose anything, I agreed that I don't want anything...Another thing,to escape from this hell, I tried to pretend I was in love. It was a recent thing, because he tried my phone taping, email tracing, and even kept a IC recorder in my bag for 55 days..... He used to wake me up( come to my room) at the middle of my sleep and question that have I had any sex with any one..... One day I said that yes: 7 times and gave a friend's name..... I was in insane...... it was very painful...
As my children's farther : he is great, he love his kids, but he can not love me. I am ugly in his eyes. ( I am an average looking woman, very nice)....
I want to buy a home and go away.... About another person, if I find only a right man whom I can marry forever, if I can get the trust, I will........If not, I love to be alone. I am not going to sleep with some one for the sake of sex.... Because I have self respect.
So I am trying my best to work all odd to make a better life....
I gave you a whole story to answer all your questions....
I will never forgive to any one who cheat me.... I rather live as a nun. I will never sleep with any one if I can't trust either....
So I almost lost all my dreams in my life to be a bride, wife, lover...... It's crazy to think that way..... But I can't trust 99.9% people..... I basically live because I have two precious kids......
So in my view, if you are not sincere, not have any respect, there's no use living like that
Marriage is forever, but remember to get the right one. Once you marry, handle with equality,. kndness, and care..... It's a give and take........I loved to be a wife, I love to be in a marriage, I love to protect a partnership in sincerity.......but I lost my life......It's all gone......all I could do is dream i poems and stories.....Real life is a tragedy.....I don't know how that happened to me and why that happened to me>>>>>>
I can't get over this pain......I function well at job, well with friends.... but truly thinking of the fact I don't have a life....... I cry in my sleep, I cry while I write, I cry in my shower.....not always, but some times.....Good thing that I don't hate any one....but I can't tolerate the carzy people. I live in a world of music and believe I am married to music.......THERE IS NO ONE ELSE TRUE TO ME...... So hope I answered all of the questions from my view...... I poured like a rain, because your topic was very sensitive to me....
Sue9457
posted by
star4sky5
on December 18, 2007 at 1:54 PM
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EX T
Thanks for the input and have a blessed festive season. Take care.
Bless
posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 18, 2007 at 12:42 PM
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Kayzz
Thanking you for that K. Take care.
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posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 18, 2007 at 12:41 PM
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Afzal
Many thanks Afzal. Take care.
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posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 18, 2007 at 12:41 PM
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Thoughts
Thanks for the input T, you are blessed. Take care.
Blessings
posted by
UncharteredSoul
on December 18, 2007 at 12:40 PM
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Reasonable questions. Freud might have posed these. It appears the answer to all your questions is no. That may be a good thing. Happy Holidays.
posted by
EX_TURPI
on December 18, 2007 at 8:27 AM
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Very good
posted by
Kayzzaman
on December 18, 2007 at 4:43 AM
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posted by
afzal50
on December 18, 2007 at 3:58 AM
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Marriage
It sure takes work, or should I say a willingness to give more than you get. I've been married 17 years, 3 kids all ours, and am still in love. Some people quit too easily and some never hold the attributes you speak of. No, marriage can''t make it without those things.Once again, great questions.
posted by
thoughtfulness
on December 18, 2007 at 3:36 AM
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