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The way we relate to domestic helps in our homes is a lot shaped by how we
Straightforward: As a bachelor, I do everything and I appreciate more and more what women do in regard to housework. Everyone in the house should help out with domestic chores: don't make the wife or mother do everything.
posted by
WavyDavy
on December 9, 2007 at 12:38 PM
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Now, I have a strong opinion regarding this question because I was the
single mom and the bread winner. I taught my boys to cook and clean and there was no variation in our home regarding roles; everyone did their part as I was also willing to mow, change the oil in the car and haul the garbage! They did laundry & dishes, etc..I wanted them to be good bachelors so they would not be desperate for mother figures and really look for equal partners in their adulthood and BOTH did just that!
Domestic help (if afforded) would be considered a gift and blessing because although I enjoy an organized and clean home, bread-winning always held priority. The amount of money ANYONE makes does not determine their worth!! Some of the lowest paying occupations such as domestic help and teachers for instance, are paid the lowest wages in this country. This county (although I love my country and feel blessed to be here), has many priorities miscontrued. Those who raise and educate our children, those who spend the most time with our children should be afforded GOLD! Our children are our future.
Funny example; I harbored a friend once while she procured a divorce from a violent husband. Before her departure to AK, she stayed for six weeks. During those six weeks she cooked and cleaned and had dinner on the table when I got home! It was the coolest experience of my life! We still joke about her time as my 'husband.' It isn't really funny though because for a long time (I'm definately heterosexual), I thought hell, I shouldn't be considering a huband in my future, but actually a wife! LOL!! Every professional woman needs a good WIFE!!
posted by
roadscross
on December 3, 2007 at 7:37 PM
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I say you're on to something, Straightforward. We arrogate a position of
elevation above people who do work we beleive beneath us, regardless of their intellect, station, or circumstances. It's a power-dominance thing. It's also about insecurity.
posted by
saul_relative
on December 3, 2007 at 11:06 AM
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straightforward
I treat others the way I want to be treated...That's the goal I shoot for at least.
posted by
mysteria
on December 2, 2007 at 2:23 AM
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Straight forward
Someone cmmented that houswives are not appreciated and the same goes for domestic help, but i think that people tend to value something when they pay money for it, and as an employee or a hired hand you have the option to quit, demand a raise or go on strike, but housewives????????? you are branded selfish it you tell your husband to pick his socks off the floor
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P.S. Thanks for stopping by my blog. byt he the way,the Persian hand i was refering to is the "font" not the langauge. Arabic, Persian and Urdu (languages) are all written from right to left, Khatt Al Farsi can be used to write all three.
posted by
lindo
on November 26, 2007 at 11:09 PM
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We might all take more time to appreciate what a difference it makes
that anyone comes along and cleans up after everyone else. Imagine the ball park if no one did that, or a class room, or any of the bazillion places we go every day of our lives, mess up a little or a lot, drop a wrapper or cigarette butt, or don't bother to clean up after our pets... and let's not even imagine road-kills that just sit in the summer sun getting bigger and bigger... bleah!
What a debt we owe the folk who push brooms, bend over and pick up, who deal with the nastiness we are too fastidious to touch...
posted by
Ciel
on November 26, 2007 at 8:14 PM
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Domestic chores take lots of time and there's little respect for housewives. What can be said for hired servants?
posted by
A-and-B
on November 26, 2007 at 5:38 PM
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America changes that--when Brahmins come to US they clean toilets;
mostly their own, but they have to be dhobis with machines....and bow down before employers who are multi-millionaires but emply engineers to refashion machines and shows in their plants. So...chamars have upended other castes wioth Almighty Dollar. That's a good thing.....but attitudes may linger. So many immigrants drive taxis (Coolies?) and work gas stations (as Sudras?). Sobering...how we change all for money. Caucasians are outcastes, outside caste system, but rank highly when immigrants come here. Change has come.AUM
posted by
ILLUMINATI8
on November 25, 2007 at 10:59 AM
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posted by
Soul_Builder101
on November 24, 2007 at 1:46 PM
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posted by
star4sky5
on November 24, 2007 at 1:08 PM
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straightforward
there are many ways to put value to domestic help depending on the situation.
posted by
richinstore
on November 24, 2007 at 8:57 AM
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Nice
posted by
Kayzzaman
on November 24, 2007 at 4:38 AM
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