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run don't walk
I am a walking miracle, not a statistic. But statistically, over 50,000 women die per year at the hands of their spouses/lovers.
I was married at the age of 16. My husband began to beat me within a year of our marriage, shortly after the birth of our son. I have survived head trauma, broken bones, a 357 magnum loaded and cocked pressed tightly to my temple (and the safety was not on) I've had my head slammed into a block wall 6 times until I was uncouncious. Lucky that's all, to be alive. I have been strangled to fainting also. But by the grace of God, I am not a statistic.
I was a meticulous housewife, submissive, loving and never even "thought" of another man. yet his rage that was all about him and not about me, could be set off by something as simple as I didn't get the door quick enough or his bath water wasn't hot enough. Through 3 1/2 yrs I became anorexic and suicidal. The neighbors would call the police all the time, beatings were a couple times a week, but when the police would come I was too afraid to press charges.
After one night when I was nearly bludgeoned to death in the sight of my 2 yr old son, I made up my mind my son would not see this one more time. My husband was in a back room and we ran for dear life, and left the state that night!
I now know that I was one of the lucky ones. I did not die from the beatings, the gun did not go off, but I could have just as easily been one of the less fortunate, one of the approx 50,000 women (and the number has not changed in 30 yrs) who die at the hands of the men who love them?
How many men are in prison because it was one hit too many, too hard, she fell the wrong way, they didn't intend to kill her but she is dead and they are in jail. Hopefully.
Every day is a time bomb. If a man cannot control his temper, he cannot control the outcome, and that sometimes goes terribly wrong.
She cannot afford to wait until she thinks she can manage on her own. There are agencies and services to help battered women, those who have the courage to refuse to be a victim and become a survivor. They may not survive the next fight. If you think I'm a gloom and doom wounded person writing this, look it up. I was lucky, I got out in time, but 50,000 a yr, every year, don't get out in time.
My advice, run don't walk!
posted by
One_Voice
on April 17, 2008 at 9:05 PM
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The right time is NOW
the longer she waits the longer she will wait and she will never leave.
posted by
StrickGold
on January 3, 2008 at 2:35 PM
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All Is Well
Tell your friend no one except her can survive for her, so when the time is right she will know it just because the door is unlocked doesn't mean it's open! I'll be praying for her safety!
posted by
mostkeptsecret
on November 16, 2007 at 1:42 PM
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Morning........
posted by
Soul_Builder101
on October 17, 2007 at 1:13 PM
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