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Troosha
Yes it was, it was just strange the way he still sort of aluded to a future and the fact it took him so long to reply, LOL.
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 3, 2007 at 12:46 PM
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Matie
Me too
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 3, 2007 at 12:46 PM
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Le
I'm with Pat B - this email is saying "it was nice but I'm outta here". But that's kind of what you wanted anyway, isn't it?
posted by
Troosha
on October 3, 2007 at 11:21 AM
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This had my head scratching.
posted by
Matie
on October 3, 2007 at 10:24 AM
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riri0322
on October 3, 2007 at 9:44 AM
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White_Elephant
He is a complicated guy, and that is why at the end of the day, no matter what, I am just not going to be with him...
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 3, 2007 at 7:48 AM
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Pat_B
I had already asked for space and I guess his reply (more than a month later) states that he realizes that is the best thing. I suppose he thinks that in the future we could get back together, but that is not happening. I think he is sincere but has issues.
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 3, 2007 at 7:47 AM
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afzal50
It was very pretty and that's why I now have conflicting emotions.
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 3, 2007 at 7:46 AM
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Kabu
He was very supportive but then at another times it seemed the whole situation exasperated him. I think he might be just a little bipolar and I should know since Tim suffered from that and me too for a while.
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 3, 2007 at 7:45 AM
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opheliablue
You aren't offending me at all, this is the reason why I posted the letter. It is true that I am not ready for another relationship and it is true that he seems to be the obsessive kind. That is why I broke up with him in the first place and why I am definitely not going back with him.
posted by
le_divorcee
on October 3, 2007 at 7:44 AM
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Le_Divorcee
I saw your posts now ... good to see you finally got your divorce
as for this guy, well I read his email and it blurted out "me,me,me"
... of course I don't know this guy but I don't think he's the kinda guy that really cares about you - in his email he only talked about what was good for him! ... I could be wrong but I don't think it's a good time for you to get involved with this guy!
posted by
White_Elephant
on October 3, 2007 at 7:10 AM
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The email, as I interpret it, is 3 parts BS and 1 part manipulation.
Someone keeps talking long enough, they're bound to slip and tell the truth - he wants distance and "to find himself" and the key phrase is the lord has something beautiful planned for "me" -- not "us."
Delete his emails. Block him from future contact. Run, don't walk, in the opposite direction. You'll always be emotionally off-balance and vulnerable with this guy.
posted by
Pat_B
on October 3, 2007 at 7:05 AM
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Lovely letter ! It's something coming right from core of the heart .
posted by
afzal50
on October 2, 2007 at 10:25 PM
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LD "he has issues his spirituality need sattention...this is all about him.
You are the person who has been suffering terrible trauma. Divorce is tough, really tough and if he can't be supportive and care about your feelings more than this email shows.....drop him. Don't answer this, he's keeping you ona string incase nothing better happens for him. Sorry love. He's no Wiley John.
posted by
Kabu
on October 2, 2007 at 8:39 PM
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LD
I really hope I don't offend you, but that email (to me, anyway) has a kind of 'creepy, undertone.. although that's probably partly because I got involved with someone online, then in 'real life' and in the end I felt like I was 'losing myself' because he was so obsessive about me and controlling - I re-read your other 2 posts first and to be honest, it sounds like he was being that way with you. I wrote my ex a 'break up' email, then didn't hear for ages, then suddenly got an email very similar to that one. Unfortunately, I got back into the relationship then and pretty soon realised that he had deliberately written to me like that, to try and get me back, not because it was true that he had progressed and was thinking it all out clearly. He was still exactly the same and it got worse and worse until I *was* practically under his control.
Sorry.. didn't mean to write all that about me - the email you got just rings loud alarm bells to me.
I think what you really need for a while is to take time to get over your divorce and (cliched I know) find yourself...
It's only my feeling, though - I could be totally wrong. I don't think it's a good idea to get involved with him at this point in your life - and as far as replying to the email goes, I don't think you should.. incase it starts it up again when you're not really ready for another relationship yet (I think?)
Again, I'm sorry if this offends you... but I am saying what I really think..
You probably need to look after *you* for a while..
posted by
opheliablue
on October 2, 2007 at 2:58 PM
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