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Great post, Krisles
I'm late reading it because after you told me you were going to write it, I came looking and I couldn't find it. I thought you had changed your mind. Now here I finally run onto it. Good thoughts and opinions expressed.
posted by
TAPS.
on September 26, 2007 at 4:49 PM
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I agree, you are right - it's all a self-defence mechanism in my view.
First there's family, then friends, then people we're ambivalent about, then people we don't feel comfortable with in some way, even if we don't know them. The uncomfortable feeling they give us, often without doing anything, inevitably leads to prejudice, even if it's just not wanting to be near them because of the uncomfortable feeling.
posted by
Antonionioni
on September 22, 2007 at 12:36 AM
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Re: The part of this post that sticks out to me the most is the complaint about
Great point....and valid. I don't completely agree in terms of using a different accent, completely different slang, etc.....although I am sure more than Blacks do this.....I just happen to experience that one first hand a lot, and have talked about it with several of my friends. It really threw me the first time I experienced it because I was so used to hearing this particular person sound one way...that was the "real" them to me, so when they switched so completely with their friends, I wondered if I knew who I thought I did. We talked it out and she completely understood where I was coming from....and taught me where she was.
I'm probably not explaining it well....I'm not talking about acting differently, that I understand....I am more comfortable with good friends than just aquaintances and my actions show it....to take color out of it and to your point....but, I don't change the way I communicate so radically. I do hate that that point was what stuck out to you the most about the whole post, but appreciate your comment, as always.
posted by
Krisles
on September 21, 2007 at 1:36 PM
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The part of this post that sticks out to me the most is the complaint about
being with black friends who act differently around you than around their other black friends.
There are people in all demographic pie slices that do exactly this. It's not a black thing, a white thing, an elderly thing, etc.
It's called "groupthink".
The hardest thing for people to do is to be themselves. This is why we have prejudice. It's easier to hate from within the walls of a group than when standing alone. That way, you don't have to explain yourself. You can just hate and be ignorant, and feel confident that you're going to be accepted.
good post, Krisles. Very thought provoking.
posted by
FineYoungSinger
on September 21, 2007 at 12:39 PM
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